Couples fight in a marriage; it happens. However, the difference between healthy couples and toxic ones is one simple question: Are you “kitchen sinking” during your arguments? During a conversation between author and communication expert Mel Robbins and journalist Charles Duhigg, the duo discussed what “kitchen sinking” is and how it can easily turn arguments into a tornado of tension that both parties end up regretting.The term “kitchen sinking” refers to the common phrase “Everything but the kitchen sink.” In this situation, "kitchen sinking" means one or both parties in the argument bring up unrelated grievances or past issues into the current argument. It’s a form of whataboutism in which what should be a focused conversation turns into you, your spouse, or both reopening old wounds or making fresh ones rather than approaching the problem you’re currently facing as a team. @melrobbins This is the most toxic thing that could be happening in your relationship that no one is talking about... according to Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and New York Times bestselling author, Charles Duhigg. On this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, Charles Duhigg is sharing the science-backed strategies and tools to stop arguing and start connecting again, even when you completely disagree. Listen now!