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‘They Take Your Brokenness and Put It Together’
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‘They Take Your Brokenness and Put It Together’

Up until a few years ago, Jodi Whitt’s trips to the Shawnee County jail in Topeka, Kansas, began with an arrest and an anxious wait in a bare intake cell for up to 72 hours. Her incarcerations lasted 30 days or so, until an abrupt release without resources or support — nothing but the clothes on her back. She’d fall back into her addiction, return to the jail, repeat the cycle. “I spent years in and out of the jail — it wasn’t like I had one stay here,” she says. “I had a revolving door of incarceration for over 20 years.”  Things began to change in 2019. She got sober, committed to treatment, and pushed herself to try new things, like enrolling in a University of Kansas technology education program for formerly incarcerated women. A few years later, she made a decision that would change her life — and the lives of so many other women. “I wanted to go back into the jail and help the women, because that’s where I needed the help,” she says. “That’s where I needed the intervention.”  The Shawnee County jail is home to Intersection to Care, a reentry program created by the Rotary Club of Community Action Against Human Trafficking. Credit: Arin Yoon Little did Whitt know where that sentiment would lead her. A local Rotary club formed in 2021 to combat human trafficking, and its members asked her to join their mentorship program to help women transition to life outside jail. As Whitt’s involvement grew, the club established itself as a key reentry service provider in Shawnee County, fundamentally interrupting the cycle of incarceration for many women there. Now, most mornings Jodi Whitt starts her day by doing her hair and makeup, feeding her cat and then driving to the jail, where her desk is decorated with affirmational quotes, a ceramic white unicorn and a small, blue-fringed Magic of Rotary banner. Surrounded by office supplies and resource handbooks waiting to be delivered, she opens her laptop and begins a new day — not as an incarcerated woman but as the person who helps and supports them. The cause-based club is the passion project of Patti Mellard, whom Topeka’s mayor describes as “stubborn in the right way.” Credit: Arin Yoon Perched on a swivel chair, Whitt takes it all in from the comfort of her cozy office. “Sometimes I don’t believe it’s true,” she says. “Sometimes I can’t believe this is my life now.” Patti Mellard is a longtime Topekan with an infectious Midwestern supermom energy. The Rotary Club of Community Action Against Human Trafficking is her passion project, formed to fight this widespread scourge through prevention education, survivor assistance and advocacy. Topeka Mayor Spencer Duncan aptly describes Mellard as “stubborn in the right way, doesn’t take no for an answer, doesn’t let things get her down.” Human trafficking is the term used when an individual or group uses force, fraud or coercion to compel another person into some kind of labor, which can include the commercial sex trade. There are misconceptions that it doesn’t take place in the United States or that foreign-born individuals are the only victims. But human trafficking can happen to anyone, anywhere — including Topeka, Kansas. Mellard wasn’t thinking about the jail when she started the club, one of a growing number of cause-based Rotary clubs in the U.S. dedicated to fighting human trafficking. But a few of the club’s early members told Mellard that when women were released from the Shawnee County jail, vulnerable and unsure of where to go, traffickers were often waiting for them in the parking lot. At prisons and jails across the country, traffickers search online records to identify targets and track their release dates, promising women housing or money and sometimes even posting their bail as leverage.   That realization was the inception of what is now the club’s largest project: Intersection to Care, which began with the support of a Rotary Foundation global grant in 2022. The initiative has effectively transformed the way the Shawnee County jail operates. What began as a program providing basic resources and mentorship has grown to include classes in technology, movement and meditation, health and art therapy, as well as supportive housing and on-demand doula services. All told, Intersection to Care has assisted more than 1,000 women since 2022, including 134 in the first five months of this year.  Weighed down by negative news? Our smart, bright newsletters deliver the uplift you’ve been looking for. Or click here to choose exactly which ones you want [contact-form-7] With the help of Whitt, Intersection to Care perfected its system of supporting women the moment they leave the gate. Now, she or other volunteers wait outside to take newly released women to safe housing. Sometimes the urgency of their task stares them right in the face. Once, when Whitt was waiting in the parking lot, a trafficker was standing right beside her, lying in wait for the woman about to be released. “I was not scared of him,” says Whitt. When the woman emerged from the jail, Whitt put her into her car and drove the woman to safety. Perhaps no American institution better reflects the vulnerabilities of its community than the local jail. “The jail is the gatekeeper to the criminal justice system,” as Brian Cole, director of the Shawnee County Department of Corrections, puts it. He says that its purpose is to ensure safety and security while people await sentencing into the state or federal prison system or until they are released (if no charges are filed). But that’s not all that jails do. Increasingly, they have become way stations for people experiencing mental illness, addiction, homelessness or other vulnerabilities. Are jails equipped to address those needs? Cole’s answer is an immediate no. When Cole started working as an officer at the jail 37 years ago, there were six women incarcerated at Shawnee. Today there are more than 100 — a surge that reflects a national trend. Between 1980 and 2023, the number of incarcerated women in the United States ballooned by over 600 percent, driven in large part by tougher drug sentences. Adding to the increase is the fact that jail or prison facilities frequently lack gender-responsive care and reentry services. “I hate to say this,” Cole says, “but there was never any care for females in jails.”    Members of the Rotary Club of Community Action Against Human Trafficking in Kansas, USA, pack care kits for incarcerated women. Credit: Arin Yoon The care kits are full of clothing and personal hygiene items. Credit: Arin Yoon In Topeka, changing the culture around incarceration and reentry into society has been several years in the making. In 2018, native Topekan Kristen Shook began working for Mirror Inc., a local nonprofit that assists formerly incarcerated individuals as they reintegrate into the community. She helped develop the Shawnee County Reentry Council in 2021 and launched a podcast, Reentry Reframed, to share people’s stories about leaving prison and jail. “It’s been transformative in helping shift cultures and our community as a whole, because now [former inmates’] voices are at the table and they’re the ones who are providing insight,” Shook says. In 2022, Shook invited Whitt onto the podcast for an interview that led to a new collaboration. She asked Whitt: “What are your hopes? … Your next year, two years, five years, what would you like to see as your impact?” Whitt’s answer inspired Shook: She said that she wanted to help women in the jail. Two weeks later, Shook learned about the Rotary club’s plans to start a mentorship program. Shook, Whitt and Mellard connected and formed a powerhouse trio working closely with Cole and other jail staff to bring Intersection to Care to the facility. 

The case for clearing your calendar one weekend a month
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The case for clearing your calendar one weekend a month

BY THE OPTIMIST DAILY EDITORIAL TEAM Summer has a way of sneaking up on you. In May, you were excited about everything: the outdoor concert, the friend’s rooftop birthday, the weekend trip to the coast. Now it’s the end of July, you’ve been to all of it, and you’re still waking up Monday feeling weirdly flat. Remedying this feeling is what the empty weekend is for. One weekend a month with nothing on the books. No plans that require you to be anywhere, no commitments that need you presentable and sociable by a certain time. A weekend that’s just yours. Where the idea came from The concept started with parents who were done with the relentless churn of kids’ weekend activities: birthday parties, soccer tournaments, fundraisers, and the chaotic commuting between all of it. Families were overbooked and miserable. So some parents started canceling everything and found that the blank days were some of the best they’d had in months. You don’t need kids to recognize that feeling. Most of us fill our weekends by reflex, not by choice. An open Saturday can feel almost suspicious, like you must be forgetting something. That discomfort is something more of us should re-examine. How many do you need Honestly, it depends. If your weeks are low-key and you recharge around people, one empty weekend a season might be plenty. If your job takes a lot out of you, or you need real solitude to feel like yourself again, you’ll probably want one a month, maybe with a few quieter Sundays thrown in. How you feel by Friday is a better guide than any formula. The to-do list problem Here’s the trap: an empty weekend sounds like a great time to finally tackle those home projects you’ve been ignoring. Resist it. An empty weekend is not a productive weekend with better branding. That said, you don’t have to let everything slide. A light cleaning pass you can finish in an hour keeps things livable without eating your whole day. Errands work the same way: get them done Thursday or Friday and the weekend opens up instead of slowly draining away. What you end up doing instead Some of the best empty-weekend moments are completely unplanned. Baking something on a rainy afternoon. A last-minute ice cream run with someone you love. A friend coming over for backyard wine with no set end time. You can’t really manufacture that kind of ease. There’s also something a little startling about the activities you were dreading by the time they arrived, even though you were excited about them two weeks ago when they hit your calendar. On an empty weekend, you only go when you want to go. Why Sunday evenings change everything If you only protect one part of the empty weekend, make it Sunday evening. A couple of hours with a good book, a long walk, a slow dinner with people you like. Nothing dramatic, just enough calm before the week starts that Monday doesn’t land quite so hard. Most people find their regular weekends feel better too, once they start doing this. Not because they do less. Because they show up to things rested.     Did this solution stand out? Share it with a friend or support our mission by becoming an Emissary.The post The case for clearing your calendar one weekend a month first appeared on The Optimist Daily: Making Solutions the News.

Oakland kids can now borrow sports gear for free at this special library
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Oakland kids can now borrow sports gear for free at this special library

BY THE OPTIMIST DAILY EDITORIAL TEAM Youth sports in the United States now cost the average family about $1,016 a year per child, up 46 percent since 2019, according to the Aspen Institute’s 2025 State of Play report. In Oakland, where just 14 percent of kids get the recommended 60 minutes of daily physical activity, compared to a national average of 23 percent, that number matters. Maribel Lopez spent 18 years working for Oakland’s parks and recreation department watching that play out. When she had budget left at the end of the year, she decided to do something with it. What the library actually is The Park Play Lending Library opened July 11 at the Larry E. Reid Sports Center in Brookfield Village, just south of the Coliseum in East Oakland. The setup is exactly what it sounds like: check out a soccer ball or jump rope, take it to the park, bring it back. Footballs, volleyballs, yoga mats, and tennis equipment are in the rotation. People asked for board games, so those are in there now too. “The library is just at the beginning stages right now,” said Riles Nganga, a recreation leader at the center. “Everything isn’t even here yet, so we still want to get spike ball out here. Anything that can get people outside, outdoors, moving and not being in the house sedentary.” The neighborhood it was built for Brookfield Village has fewer parks, less green space, and fewer city resources than most Oakland neighborhoods, but a lot of kids. The sports center has been filling that kind of gap for a while. When it opened in 2011, it brought the first public pool to the neighborhood since 1976. For the three decades in between, families made do with a contaminated estuary nearby. “Kids were talking about being Olympic gold-medal swimmers but we had nowhere to learn,” community representative Jacquee Castain said in 2009, two years before the pool finally opened. Maria Garcia works the front desk at the center and hears the same thing about equipment. “Parents are trying to keep food on the table, but also navigate being able to have their kids go to things and participate in things, and sometimes, it can be difficult,” she said. “And I think having resources like this kind of opens up that door for them to be able to do that.” What sparked this ingenious idea? Tool-lending libraries have been running in Oakland and Berkeley for years: you borrow a drill the same way you’d borrow a book, use it, bring it back. Lopez saw the same logic applying to a soccer ball. She noticed families kept showing up at the center asking to borrow equipment, especially as summer approached. She held onto the idea until she had a little budget left and a reason to move on it. Her case for why this matters goes beyond physical activity. “We’re aware that sports can lead to social mobility,” she told SFGATE. “When kids are familiar with golf, tennis, soccer, and other games or sports that are more socially mobile, then they have access to different communities, different friend groups, different neighborhoods, and we want to be a vehicle for that. We want kids to be able to speak each other’s language and connect through sports.” Nganga, who grew up in Brookfield Village, didn’t need much convincing. “I know growing up, I didn’t have access to any of this stuff, so I think us being able to offer that to the community is a great thing.” What happens next This is a pilot. If it holds here, the plan is one lending library per Oakland district, each stocked based on what that community asks for. Partnerships with local sports organizations are in the works too. The World Cup renewed a familiar conversation this year about cost being the wall between American kids and competitive youth sports. A lending library in East Oakland doesn’t knock that wall down. But the idea that a ball you can borrow is as useful as one you own is simple, cheap, and replicable, and it’s already in the hands of kids who didn’t have one before.     Did this solution stand out? Share it with a friend or support our mission by becoming an Emissary.The post Oakland kids can now borrow sports gear for free at this special library first appeared on The Optimist Daily: Making Solutions the News.

1980s Heartthrob Has The Girls Screaming “Yee-Haw” In Rare Video
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1980s Heartthrob Has The Girls Screaming “Yee-Haw” In Rare Video

The Dukes of Hazzard has all the girls falling for the good old boys Luke and Bo Duke and wishing they looked like Daisy in her cut-off shorts. The show went off the air 40 years ago, but fans still love the Dukes and its stars. John Schneider played Bo Duke for all seven seasons of the show, and the blonde-haired heartthrob looked like a country Ken Doll strolling through town in the General Lee. Today, at 66, John looks a bit different than he did in his Dukes of Hazzard days, but he’s still happy to give fans what they want when they see him. @foreverangel81 One of my childhood dreams were completed today. So, 2 weeks ago I went to cooters in Pigeon Forge and met Tom Wopat. Who Played Luke Duke in the original series “The Dukes of Hazzard”.. Today while I was at work at the Bristol Motor Speedway, John Schneider who played Bo Duke, drove up to me and asked me where he needed to park to play the drag races. He got out of the car for a little while and we talked for a bit and took a few pics and videos and he also autographed my BMS ID badge for me. And gave me a BIG YEEEEEE-HAAAAA!! I was so tickled!! God allowed that to happen and I am so thankful!!! If I hadn’t sprained my ankle I wouldn’t have been working in the back. But, after spraining my ankle I worked out front, checking for tickets and parking passes and Praise be to God, I got to meet John. He was very kind and wonderful to talk to, He is also a fellow Born Again Christian, like myself. God Is Good!!! #johnschneider #johnschneiderstudios #dukesofhazzard #dukeboys #boduke #hazzard #hazzardcounty #bristolmotorspeedway #bristoldragway ♬ original sound – ForeverAngel81 John Schneider Recently Made A “Dukes Of Hazzard” Fan’s Day A TikToker who posts as @foreverangel81 shared a fun video of John Schneider. He explained that the chance to meet made his day. “Today while I was at work at the Bristol Motor Speedway, John Schneider who played Bo Duke, drove up to me and asked me where he needed to park to play the drag races. He got out of the car for a little while and we talked for a bit and took a few pics and videos and he also autographed my BMS ID badge for me,” he wrote in the caption. “And gave me a BIG YEEEEEE-HAAAAA!! I was so tickled!!” Fans loved seeing John Schneider and hearing his signature call. “Met John at Fanboy expo and he’s so nice,” someone wrote. “I love John he’s a great guy I’d love to meet him,” another person shared. Forever Angel credited God for bringing John Schneider into his life. “God allowed that to happen and I am so thankful!!! If I hadn’t sprained my ankle I wouldn’t have been working in the back. But, after spraining my ankle I worked out front, checking for tickets and parking passes and Praise be to God, I got to meet John. He was very kind and wonderful to talk to, He is also a fellow Born Again Christian, like myself. God Is Good!!!” This story’s featured image is by CBS via Getty Images

Carnie Wilson’s Daughter Stuns Singing Classic Beach Boys Song
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Carnie Wilson’s Daughter Stuns Singing Classic Beach Boys Song

You may not realize it from her name, but former American Idol contestant Lola Bonfiglio has superstar genes. Her mother, Carnie Wilson, was a member of the 1990s trip Wilson Phillips. Carnie’s dad, Brian Wilson, was a member of the Beach Boys and helped write some of the biggest hits of his time. Carnie Wilson shared a sweet video of her daughter, Lola, performing one of her grandfather’s songs with the choir at Notre Dame High School in Sherman Oaks, California. The director asked Lola to tell the crowd about her grandfather, and she said with a smile he’s “Brian from the Beach Boys.” She then sang God Only Knows, a song filled with emotion and nostalgia. View this post on Instagram A post shared by American Idol (@americanidol) Carnie Wilson’s Daughter, Lola, Has An Incredible Voice Fans loved listening to Carnie Wilson’s daughter sing. Her bloodline’s natural talent certainly shone through. “I love watching this over and over. I bet her Grandma Wilson was so proud of her singing this song. I bet her Grandpa Wilson was so proud of her singing this. Every time I watch this it gives me goosebumps and tears to my eyes. It is one of the most beautiful songs,” a fan wrote. This person appreciated seeing Carnie Wilson’s daughter sing. “For all of us who grew up with Brian Wilson I can only say we’re all honored to listen to this amazing interpretation by his granddaughters choir.” “Beautifully done…. Nice to see music continues to run through the family. The whole family should be very proud of her,” another person shared. Carnie Wilson is incredibly proud of her daughter. She and her sister, Wendy Wilson, accompanied Lola Bonfiglio to her American Idol audition earlier this year, and the trio performed their version of Wilson Phillips’ hit song, Hold On. “So surreal to sing for everyone I’m so proud of Lola and I can’t wait to hear her audition!!!!!!! we love you, American Idol,” Carnie shared on Instagram. This story’s featured image is by FOX via Getty Images