Former President Donald Trump said Tuesday that the $454 million bond required to appeal the civil fraud judgment against him could force a fire sale of his real estate. New York Attorney General Letitia James’ prosecution of Trump essentially tries to bankrupt the president. Trump must post a liquid (cash‚ securities) bond covering the full amount of the judgment to pause enforcement of the judgment‚ but 30 surety companies told Trump they would not accept real estate...

On March 16‚ 2024‚ Upworthy shared the story of a Redditor named Fancy-Anywhere-4733 (FA for short) who had an incredible dilemma: How do you respond to your family 37 years after they threw you out of the house as a 16-year-old for a bogus reason?Now‚ he has shared his response‚ which is full of honesty‚ strength and grace.First‚ here is some background (you can read the whole story here).FA’s mother died when he was 12 years old and 2 years later‚ his father married a woman named Ashley with two kids‚ Mark (14) and Emily (12). “I got along with Ashley and Emily really well‚ but Mark‚ not so much so‚” FA recalls. The following year‚ this rivalry came to a head when both boys fell for the same girl‚ Lisa‚ that FA began to date‚ much to Mark’s annoyance.To get FA back for dating his crush‚ Mark planted some of Emily’s panties in his dresser drawer for his stepmother to find on laundry day.“I had no answer as I'd never seen [the underwear] before‚” FA wrote. “Of course‚ no one believed me. No matter how much protesting I did." Mark added to the lies by saying that FA often stared at Emily and once said he wanted to marry her.FA’s father threw him out of the house for being a "perv" and he was forced to live on the streets‚ doing whatever he could to get by. After decades of hard work he created a new life. He had a good job‚ was married with 4 kids and had finally found real happiness.Recently‚ at the age of 53‚ his stepsister‚ Emily‚ whom he hadn’t spoken to in years‚ emailed him. Emily revealed that Mark got drunk and admitted that he set FA up and the news has been like a “bombshell” was dropped on the family.“After sharing this revelation with Mom and Dad. Dad started crying‚ like really crying‚” Emily wrote in the email. “I've never seen him cry before. I believe it because he has been carrying around a lot of guilt all these years. Obviously‚ now knowing the truth‚ he is now having to deal with the consqueses of his actions. However‚ after several hours of talking‚ we all came to the conclusion that we needed to find you and make amends. I have spent hours trying to locate you‚ in the hopes that I could reach out and extend a heartfelt apology for the years of misunderstanding and mistreatment and hurt.”Receiving the email was an incredible shock‚ and FA wasn’t sure whether he would respond at all. “I'm‚ however indifferent to the idea‚” FA admitted. “Like‚ I have no ill feelings towards [Emily]. She obviously was young and had no real say in the matter. But with lots and lots of therapy‚ I learned to let go of that hate and anger and to let go of them. As well with all the love I receive from my wife‚ kids and in-laws‚ it's all I really need.”FA received countless comments from people who suggested some ways to respond to the to the email. Two days later‚ he shared his response to Emily in a new post:Dear Emily‚I appreciate you taking the time to reach out to me‚ but I must be honest with you. The years of pain and hurt caused by the lies and manipulation by Mark and the betrayal by Dad have left deep scars that will never be truly healed. While I understand that you are now aware of the truth and are genuinely sorry for what has transpired‚ I find it difficult to simply forgive and forget.The betrayal and abandonment I experienced at the hands of my own family have left me with a sense of distrust and resentment that can never be overcome. The damage that has been done has impacted me in ways that you may never ever fully and truly understand‚ and the idea of trying to reconcile now feels like an insurmountable task.I have spent years in therapy trying to come to terms with the pain and deep trauma I endured‚ and I have worked hard to build a wonderful life for myself that does not rely on the presence or approval of those who turned their backs on me.While I am grateful for the apology and the newfound awareness of the truth‚ I do not feel compelled to rekindle a relationship that was built on lies‚ deception and betrayal. Especially after all these years.I have found peace and closure in distancing myself from those who caused me harm‚ and I do not see the need to reopen old wounds in the name of reconciliation. While I believe in the power of forgiveness‚ that isn't something I can give.I wish you all the best in your life‚ I really do‚ but I must prioritize my emotional health and self-preservation above all else. I hope you can respect my decision and understand that the wounds of the past will take a lifetime to heal. I would appreciate if you pass this fact on to the others and please don't reach out again. I must look to my future and not my past.Sincerely‚ [FA]"This is a good response. You are letting them know that the door is closed‚ and you didn't give them any information on whether you have a family‚" Primierofilho wrote in the comments. "That’s (one of) my favorite parts of [FA's] beautifully eloquent reply. By denying his ex-family any information of how he is doing‚ they don’t get to know which way to turn their feelings‚" Darkstormchaser added.One of the most powerful parts of FA’s letter is the clear reason why he will never be able to forgive them. Even though he believes in forgiveness‚ doing so would unravel a lot of the work he’s done to heal after the incredible‚ nearly insurmountable pain they have caused him.Forgiveness was simply a bridge too far and FA should be proud that he drew up clear boundaries with his family. There was no reason why he should trade an ounce of his peace of mind in exchange for giving solace to those who abandoned him as a teen.

One of the first things most of us learned in art class was that red‚ yellow and blue are the primary colors. All other colors could be made from some combination of these three‚ we were told‚ plus black and white for tints and shades. We probably even remember mixing various amounts of red‚ blue and yellow together to make the secondary colors of orange‚ green and purple. Except making purplewas always a problem‚ wasn't it? Did anyone ever make a vibrant purple mixing red and blue together? No. It usually came out a sort of muddy eggplant color instead of the bright iris purple we were looking for. As artis Anna Evans shared in a recent Facebook post‚ "I used to get very frustrated trying to mix purples‚ they always came out the colour of dried blood. It was not purple." After hours of research on color theory‚ she added magenta to her palette and never looked back. There's a reason for that. We've basically had the primary colors for pigments wrong. Instead of red‚ yellow and blue being the primary colors for paints‚ magenta‚ yellow and cyan are more accurate. This isn't really a new idea—CMYK has been used for printing for over a century—but for most of us‚ the RYB = primary colors equation has practically been as unquestionable as 2+2=4. Color theory can get a bit complicated‚ especially since color works differently with light (additive color) than it does with pigments (subtractive color)‚ but in some ways this new color wheel simplifies things on both fronts. The reason our red and blue paint mixing experiments always created muddy purple is because there's actually yellow in most red pigments. Yellow and magenta can actually be mixed to make red. In addition‚ cyan and magenta can be mixed to make blue‚ so the idea that nothing can make red or blue because they are primary colors isn't actually true. What makes this color wheel simpler than the RYB one is that red‚ blue and green are the primary colors for light‚ while cyan‚ magenta‚ and yellow are secondary. For pigments‚ in the CMY color wheel‚ it's just the opposite. That's easier than trying to wrap your head around light colors being so different than pigments when it comes to primary and secondary colors; all you have to remember is that they're swapped. If all of this sounds bunk and you're absolutely sure that red‚ blue and yellow must be the primary colors because that's what you learned and have always believed‚ check out artist Jazza's experiment in which he tries to make cyan and magenta out of red‚ blue and yellow. It's quite entertaining. However‚ there is some controversy over this whole concept in the art world. While some have been thrilled to realize why their colors didn't always come out the way they wanted them to using the RYB color wheel and have found CMY to be much more color-mix friendly‚ there are arguments for not throwing the RYB baby out with the bathwater. It's not so much that it's entirely wrong as that our definition of primary colors might need a bit of revamping.For a more in-depth and nuanced view of what primary colors actually are and why there are arguments for considering both RYB and CMY as primary colors‚ check out Florent Farges' excellent explanation of the whole primary color controversy here:If there's one takeaway from all of this‚ it's that when it comes to pigments‚ yellow clearly reigns supreme. All hail the almighty yellow!

There's no question that booking and tracking flights has gotten so much easier with the advent of the internet and smartphones‚ but there's a little-known travel hack that makes navigating your actual flight day even simpler.TikTok creator Darby (@durbinmalonster) shared the No. 1 flight hack she learned when she worked for the airline industry in a video that's been viewed nearly 10 million times in one day. In the caption‚ she wrote that she learned this trick seven years ago‚ so it's remarkable that more people aren't aware of it‚ but that often seems to be the case with iPhone features in particular. If you have an iPhone (don't worry‚ Android users‚ we'll get to your workaround in a moment)‚ and you want to be able to access to your specific flight updates and all of your flight information—including gate and baggage claim numbers—in one click‚ all you have to do is text yourself your flight number. The flight number in the text becomes a link. When you click on it‚ all your real-time flight info comes up. You can also send it to someone who is coming to pick you up so they have easy access to your updated flight info without having to look it up or download an app or anything. The only two caveats are: 1) It has to include the airline code‚ so if your flight was American Airlines flight 387‚ you'd type "AA387" or if it was Alaska flight 294‚ you'd type "AS294." And 2) Only use this hack the day of your flight‚ since airlines will often reuse the same flight numbers. If you do it the day before‚ you might get updates for the wrong flight. Watch Darby demonstrate how it works: @durbinmalonster S/O @Brooke Webster for teaching me this in my bag loading days 7 years ago Some people were blown away simply by the fact that you can text yourself. Apparently‚ this is also not common knowledge. As one person wrote‚ "I’ve learned more on TikTok than 8 years in college."Some people shared that they text their flight number every time they fly and love it."I’ve always done this and made family share with me when they’re flying. My partner didn’t have time between flights once to send his connecting flight in a rush and I was able to find his new flight‚" shared one person."I do this all the time and it’s even better than having the airlines App‚" offered another. (A lot of people said‚ "You can just use the airline's app!" but people don't always fly the same airline and there's a good chance you're going to be using your texting app already at the airport‚ so it's more seamless this way. Plus the benefit of being able to easily text it to someone else.) "Omg this is so much easier than flight tracker‚" wrote another."Ty but I prefer printing my boarding pass at the kiosk and spending the rest of the time frantically trying to relocate my boarding pass and rechecking the info on it and asking ppl where my gate is‚" another person joked. If you're an Android phone user‚ there's a similar hack that's just one extra step. You can type your flight number into Google‚ grab the link that comes up‚ and text that to yourself. Any time you want to check your flight status‚ just click the link in your texts. And if someone is coming to pick you up‚ you can text them that same link so they can track your flight in real time. Technology can make our lives so much better when we actually know how to use it. Thank you‚ Darby‚ for the valuable lesson.

Have you ever heard advice and thought‚ “That’s too good to be true?” As we all know‚ that usually means it doesn’t work. However‚ sometimes‚ there are simple and easy solutions to problems that once seemed impossible. We just have to look for answers in the right place. A Reddit user who has since deleted their account reached out to the online forum and asked people to share their life hacks that at first seem to be fake but are a “true lifesaver.” They shared everything from tech tricks to bring back dead laptops to easy ways to trick ourselves into developing powerful‚ “atomic” habits. Here are 15 of the best responses to the question: What lifehack seems to be fake‚ but is it a true lifesaver?1. Freeze your busted hard drive"Hard drive in the freezer to get it to spin up one more time. I swear to god I thought it was bullshit until I was out of options and tried it... and the damn thing came back on a few more times and I got the data off of it I needed." — KnightCrusader"I'm not sure there is a better answer to this question. It is such a goofy solution that shouldn't realistically work. The number of times I've successfully extracted data from a dying drive using this technique is ridiculous. When a good friend of mine gave me this advice over the phone‚ I remember being genuinely pissed that he wasn't offering any real guidance. He had twenty-plus years in IT at that point and he was my go-to in times of crisis. I was absolutely gobsmacked when it worked." — MJSlayer2. Mental vs. physical fatigue"Don’t confuse mental fatigue with physical fatigue. After a long day at my brain-intensive job‚ I think‚ “I’m tired‚ I should lie down.” But really‚ I’ve been sitting on my butt for eight hours and what I need to recover is physical motion." — From_around_here3. Stop crying"You can’t cough and produce tears at the same time. It only works for a second‚ but if you need one to keep from crying‚ clear your throat." — Fermifighter"I can confirm this helps; if I am trying to hold back tears and feel them starting to slip‚ I clear my throat several times and it helps me regain control so I can focus on breathing and calming down." — Redheadredeemed4. Slow down to speed up"’Slow is smooth‚ smooth is fast.’" My therapist told me this and it has changed my life. At the beginning of a work session or project‚ I think through everything patiently‚ without rushing. Start working‚ and before I know it‚ I am in a groove and time flies by." — BreakfastSimulator5. 2-Minute Rule"I like the '2-minute' rule. If it takes less than 2 minutes‚ just do it right now. It greatly helps for people like myself who are prone to procrastinating. Whether folding a few shirts‚ making a phone call‚ putting away groceries‚ putting something in the kitchen‚ cleaning something‚ etc. You put off trivial small things‚ and over time‚ they stack up and become too overwhelming to do. If you follow the 2-minute rule you will find that you're more organized and there are fewer annoyances that get in the way of the real things to do." — Musecorn6. Memory trick"If you are one of the types that gets anxious about leaving the iron on or similar stuff‚ do this. Remove the plug from the socket‚ point at it‚ and say out loud‚ 'Iron is off.' You WILL remember that you did‚ in fact‚ turn it off." — Buroda7. Vacuum trick"Yell at your vacuum cleaner to get your dogs to stop barking at it. Apparently‚ it helps your dogs realize that you are dominant over the vacuum‚ so they stop trying to protect you from it. Sounds like BS‚ but I literally did it once and it was never a problem again." — IAmNotScottBakula"This works! I felt ridiculous telling my vacuum to sit and stay and 'bad boy' in front of my dog‚ but after that‚ dog gave zero f**ks about the vacuum." — Silver_Ells8. Atomic habits"Lots of the tiny habits/atomic habits stuff sounds so dumb‚ but it works for many people. Basically‚ the idea is that you commit to just doing one pushup a day‚ or learn to write one foreign language word‚ or one hug with your partner‚ or write for minutes‚ basically one teeny step toward whatever goal you are aiming at. Over time‚ the ritual gets built in and you can scale it. It's worked really well for me for writing. I write now. Less so for exercise‚ but hey ho. I still do 5 minutes minimum per day‚ every day." — AutoReponseUnit9. Baking Soda"Baking soda is a miracle cleaner and unpleasant odor remover. You can clean ovens‚ clear up slightly clogged bathroom and kitchen drains‚ remove grease‚ remove stinks from furniture and clothing like shoes‚ and many more." — TheBassMeister10. Look busy"When you look annoyed all the time‚ people think that you're busy." — Upstairs-Traffic"I discovered later in life that I had developed Resting Bitch Face. A little investigation revealed that colleagues often just left me alone instead of making requests because they thought I was busy and probably pissed off with work. I actually love helping people‚ so I've made efforts to offset it‚ but if I really DON'T want to be bothered‚ um‚ yeah‚ turns out that works." — DeathBoyUK11. Magical Vodka"Vodka is the ultimate odor remover. You can use it for BO on clothes or animal urine scent. Put the cheapest vodka you can find in a spray bottle and spray the affected area. Allow to dry. It's like freaking magic. I have gotten odors out that nothing else worked on. Vodka is the ultimate odor remover. You can use it for BO on clothes or animal urine scent. Put the cheapest vodka you can find in a spray bottle and spray the affected area. Allow to dry. It's like freaking magic. I have gotten odors out that nothing else worked on." — Diedbyicee12. Splurge protection"If you are thinking about a splurge purchase‚ wait 3 days. If you're still thinking about it at that point‚ then splurge away. Otherwise‚ it was just a passing fancy." — No_Mongoose541913. Exercise"Unfortunately‚ getting vigorous‚ regular exercise really does help with depression. Doesn’t solve it‚ but actually does make a difference. I used to get so mad when therapists would suggest it‚ lol." — Personal_Custard_95"I have been diagnosed with depression. A walk and some exercise help my MOOD a lot‚ but it doesn't CURE the mental illness‚ that's what the meds are for! A walk does help though‚ and having a dog does help with ‘get up and go for a walk’ because he gets so excited to go around the block." — CooperTucker14. Take accountability"Taking accountability for your actions and apologizing rather than trying to justify them and becoming defensive." — IndianBeauty143"This one is so huge. The relief you feel when you stop fighting it and just admit when you’re wrong. So much tension and anxiety releases." — Capaldithenewblack15. Lift a little"Compound interest isn't just something to do with money. It works with exercise‚ too. Invest as little as 10 minutes a day in getting your heart rate up or doing some weights; that is all you need to do. You don't need to bust your ass off 5 hours a week." — PPLifter"A few of my friends are personal trainers and they love to pump anyone up by telling them that even five minutes of exercise a week can make a difference after enough time. People take on too much at once with exercise and they crash and burn because they're overworking their muscles and hurting themselves. There's a lot more to it than that‚ but starting small is great." — Nauin

There is certainly no shortage of stories from women highlighting the glaring disparity between society’s expected responsibilities of husbands vs. wives. Some are a bit more lighthearted‚ poking fun at the absurdity. Others reflect utter frustration and had-it-up-to-here-edness with partners not doing their share of the work. However‚ self-proclaimed “Clueless Husband” J Fisher’s honest‚ thoughtful retrospection on the subject shows that it’s not just female partners noticing that things need to change. In a now-viral TikTok video‚ Fisher describes how he used to consider himself the “main character” of his relationship. What exactly did that look like? Early on in his marriage‚ it looked something like this:“Say we'd be going on a trip. My partner at that point in time would be doing the laundry‚ vacuuming the house‚ making sure the dishes were done. I would think‚ I would literally think like‚ ‘Well‚ yeah‚ we don't have to do that. That's you wanting to do that. It's not what I want to do‚’” he explained in the clip. @jfisher62 What NOT to do as a husband #fyp #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok #fairplay #parenting #feminism #dismantlethepatriarchy #relationship #marriage #support #partnering ♬ original sound - J Fisher Fisher later shared how his wife would then get everything ready for said trip‚ while he would simply pack for himself. This continued even after they had kids. It became worse‚ actually. “My partner would do all the work to get all of them ready to make sure they were bathed‚ snacks packed‚ and I would get myself ready.”Looking back‚ Fisher can plainly see how this behavior was “not okay.” But how did he think this was acceptable in the first place? After some reflection‚ he realized that it was simply the standard being modeled to him from an early age. “I saw my own father do this quite a bit where he would take care of his own needs. So‚ I know I didn't learn it from nowhere‚" he said. "But I also had to unlearn it because it never was okay. I thought that my role was to do all these things outside of the home and that the home was women's domain. I saw that modeled and even taught as the way it should be‚ but‚ oh my gosh‚ is that not partnership? And that sucks.”After coming to this revelation‚ Fisher’s opinion is that if you approve of this division of labor‚ that you “shouldn’t be in a relationship.” Hard to argue with that.Hoping that he can further illustrate a better partnering mindset in a way that “may help it click for some guys‚” Fisher has all kinds of insightful TikToks focused on taking accountability and expanding emotional intelligence. In them‚ he often names therapy‚ setting boundaries‚ finding community and accessing personal joy (rather than relying on a partner to fulfill all emotional needs) as major tools for creating a more equal relationship. @jfisher62 Good intention ≠ Truly loving 💔😔 “I’m Sorry” doesn’t begin to do it justice. #fyp #foryoupage #marriage #longtermrelationship #partner #husbandsoftiktok #wivesoftiktok #accountability #healingjourney #grief #stagesofgrief #dabda #acceptance ♬ original sound - J Fisher And perhaps the best part—there doesn’t seem to be so much shame around the subject. Fisher acknowledges his own goodwill while still admitting to displaying less-than-healthy behavior. It’s hard not to feel like if maybe this kind of honest‚ yet compassionate reexamination of gender stereotypes were more commonplace‚ we’d all collectively be a lot farther ahead. This article originally appeared on 5.4.23

A mother on TikTok shared a heartfelt moment when her 9-year-old daughter opened up about her self-image concerns‚ wondering about her appearance as she grows up. The story was a wonderful example of a mother delicately dealing with an issue that far too many young women face. It was also a difficult moment because the conversation brought up the mother's body issues as well.The conversation happened while the two were clothes shopping at Target. “My 9-year-old’s saying she's fat‚ and this is because she has to wear adult sizes versus kids 'cause she's really tall‚ just like me‚” Mackenzie Waddell told her 222‚000 followers.“She kept calling herself ‘fat’ and that she had too big of a butt and that the other kids her age don't have to wear adult clothes‚” Waddell continued. “I reminded her that I‚ too‚ had to wear adult clothes when I was her age 'cause I was really tall just like she is.” @missmommymack Im so devastated that she feels that way about herself. 💔 The discussion led to a question that was hard for the mother to hear.“... she asked me if she was gonna look like me when she grew up. And I asked her‚ ‘Do you mean big like me? When you grow up?’ And she said‚ ‘Yes. I'm not trying to be mean mom‚ but I want to look like Aunt Sarah‚ not you‚’” she recalled.Her daughter’s remarks hit her right in the heart‚ but she responded with perfect composure. "I kept a brave face and said‚ 'As long as you are happy and healthy‚ and you love yourself‚ that's all that matters. No matter what size you are‚” Waddell said.The mother was sure not to take it personally‚ but it still cut close to the bone. “And was I hurt? Yeah‚ I was. But she didn't mean to hurt me. It just really sucked. Yeah‚” she concluded.The post went viral‚ receiving over 1.7 million views and over 2‚000 comments. The most popular commenter thought that Waddell should tell her daughter to avoid commenting on people’s weight."You should tell her she hurt your feelings. She needs to know. You did a great job supporting her in how she feels. She has to learn that skill also‚" Char8201 wrote.However‚ many women responded with nothing but love for how Waddell handled such a challenging situation. "You responded beautifully‚ momma. She’s still learning and these are the moments where we provide that guidance‚ even when it hurts‚" Mavv13 wrote. "Oh mama. Thank god she feels comfortable to talk to you openly‚" tirrelltribe added.After the tremendous response to her video‚ Waddell responded with another post‚ educating people about how one’s weight doesn’t necessarily mean they eat unhealthy. “A lot of people like to assume that plus-size people don’t know how to eat healthy or are unhealthy. When‚ in fact‚ we’re not‚” Waddle said.She added that her daughter lives a healthy lifestyle but avoids having conversations about weight with her because “That’s what traumatized me.” @missmommymack Replying to @user3838812846970 she will always be perfect‚ no matter what. This article originally appeared on 9.28.23

It’s tough to quantify whether today’s parents are stricter or more permissive than previous generations‚ but the overall sentiment seems to be that parents are more lenient than they were a few decades back.A poll by YouGov found that younger Americans are more likely than their elders to have been raised by “not very strict” or “not at all strict” parents. Thirty-nine percent of under-30s say that their parents weren't very strict or not strict at all‚ compared to only 15% of over-65s.Nicola Kraus‚ author of “The Nanny Diaries‚” believes that it’s a natural outgrowth of the fact that we know a lot more about children than we did in the past. “We are deeply aware that our children are cognizant‚ conscious humans in a way previous generations weren't aware. Children were treated like pets or-worse-release-valves for their parents' stresses and fears‚ then expected to magically transform into healthy‚ functional adults‚” she writes.But this change in parenting has encouraged other trends that many think are creating a greater number of entitled young adults who can’t fend for themselves. These days we have helicopter parents‚ bulldozer parents and dependent parents whose overinvolvement in their children’s lives renders them incapable of becoming fully integrated adults.Reddit user u/qquackie asked the online forum "What parenting 'trend' do you strongly disagree with?" and got an overwhelming number of responses from people who think that today's parents are raising entitled children.Many of the responders think that parents are being too sensitive with their children and they don’t provide firm boundaries. They also think it’s a big problem for kids to think they’re the center of the universe.Here are 21 of the most popular responses to the parenting question.1. Pretending that not parenting is parenting"I won't tell my child to stop kicking your leg repeatedly because i don't want to crush his spirit!' — StoicDonkey2. ​Denying your kid any negative experiences or emotions"They are a normal part of being a person‚ teach them to handle negative emotions now before you send them out into a world they are not prepared to handle." — IAmRules3. Fake “gentle parenting”"You hear and see so many parents letting their children do whatever they want‚ no matter how destructive‚ rude or hurtful their behaviours are. Parents find themselves beholden to the whims of their childrens’ emotions in the name of gentle parenting‚ instead of true gentle parenting where (so I hear) boundaries are set alongside validating emotions." — candianuk4. Not setting clear boundaries"You are the adult‚ not the kid. Children benefit sooo much more from clear rules and consequences." — NorthWeight35805. The “bulldozer” parent"The parent who removes all obstacles/challenges from a child’s life so they don’t learn about perseverance‚ problem solving‚ failure (sometimes you can try hard and still not get the reward) and learning from mistakes - unless the goal is to develop a highly anxious person - then‚ being a bulldozer parent is great." — spinefexmouse6. Stage-mom syndrome"Abusing the talents of your child just to boost your self image in society." — sweettooth_927. Nonstop supervision"Hovering over them at every turn. Whatever happened to tossing them in a play area in another room and letting them create‚ explore‚ and get the occasional bumps?" — ansibley8. Not believing the teacher"'My kid never lies to me.' Seriously. Parents absolutely should be their kid’s biggest supporter. But support sometimes means holding the kid responsible when they don’t do the right thing." — jdith1239. "No talking back!""If this also counts... Parents who punish their kids for speaking up or otherwise explaining something‚ saying that they're 'talking back.' I honestly don't get why most parents refuse to admit they're not always right sometimes. Besides‚ what if their kid one day comes up to them and says another adult is touching them inappropriately?" — EntryRepresentative510. Helicopter parenting"Kids need freedom to explore the world‚ get dirty‚ engage in free play. I am not advocating putting the child outside on a Saturday morning and telling them to come home when the street lights come on‚ but an age acceptable level of freedom." — Cat_Astrophe_X11. Pushing them too hard"Pushing them too hard in sports‚ academics‚ etc. Like pushing til they need therapy or get injured‚ no free time‚ no downtime. FFS‚ they only get to be young &; without excessive responsibilities once." — Oh-Oh-Ophelia12. Tablets in public"Loud cartoons and games on tablets in public places." — StarrCreationsLLC13. Potty training too late"Oh man‚ I’m a nanny and work in daycare. I can talk so much about this. One is late potty training. Waiting to potty train a child is more and more common. Which I generally agree with. Wait until they’re 2.5-3 and knock it out. Some take longer‚ some are probably ready earlier. Better than rushing it and causing issues. What this has turned into. Not potty training. I nanny a 4 year old that is still in pull ups. She is more than capable of using the potty. Our 4 year old classroom just installed a diaper genie because so many 4 year olds are starting preschool in diapers. My best friend who is a Kindergarten teacher had 2 kids start kindergarten in diapers. Luckily they’re potty trained now." — cleaning-meaning14. Kids on social media"Creating social media channels for your children where they proceed to upload videos and photos of their kids. Perfect place for pedophiles." — AJSK1815. Too much structure​"I guess the overall trend of prioritizing academics/extracurriculars and college admissions over everything else. Give your kids some chores and let them hang out with their friends outside of structured sports and musical activities!" — hausfrau22416. Tablet addiction"Constantly giving your kid(s) a tablet or cellphone to keep them busy because you can't be bothered to actually be a parent or pay attention to them." — ZRuneDemonX17. Letting the kid make all the choices"I believe kids should have reasonable choices‚ like what their snack is and the character that's on their bedspread‚ but you can't let your 3 year old decide when you're allowed to leave your house. The world doesn't work that way." — cihojuda18. Silence"Saying 'what goes on in this house‚ stays in this house.' I know hundreds of victims of abuse‚ go through years of pain because of this phrase." — Dixie_Maclant19. Birthdays"The social media trend that keeps upping the expectations for birthday parties and any celebration connected to a kid. When I was a kid‚ birthdays consisted of a handmade invitation made by me‚ a cake from the grocery store‚ food that my Mom cooked and then inviting some friends and family over for games. Today's expectation is that every monthversary and half-birthday consist of a huge arch of balloons that will end up in the trash‚ a customized three-tier fondant cake‚ gift wrapping that color-coordinates with the themed party favors and of course‚ a very intentional outfit for the numerous photo ops that will take up most of the day. Anything for the 'gram‚ right? Don't even get me started on gender reveal announcements." — littlebunsenburner20. Parent‚ not friend"Trying to be your kid's 'friend‚' not a parent. A parent is there to provide guidance and responsible behavior to model. Yes‚ sometimes making their actions have consequences and setting boundaries can be difficult and they'll not be too happy with you. That's part of the job. Ultimately I think that will result in a healthier relationship than being the "cool" permissive parent. I've seen results of that style of (not) parenting with very sad outcomes." — DataPlenty21. You're not special"Perpetuating the myth that one's children are somehow special. With about 97% certainty‚ they are not. Teaching them that they are just sets them up for crushing disappointment down the road. It's far better to raise kids to believe they are ordinary people with a few gifts‚ but also some flaws and weaknesses." — AssistantToTheSenseiThis article originally appeared on 2.20.23

116 years ago‚ the Pasterze glacier in the Austria's Eastern Alps was postcard perfect:Photo via Library of Congress/Wikimedia Commons. Snowy peaks. Windswept valleys. Ruddy-cheeked mountain children in lederhosen playing "Edelweiss" on the flugelhorn. But a lot has changed since 1900.Much of it has changed for the better! We've eradicated smallpox‚ Hitler is dead‚ and the song "Billie Jean" exists now.On the downside‚ the Earth has gotten a lot hotter. A lot hotter.The 15 warmest years on record have all occurred since 1998. July 2016 was the planet's hottest month — ever.Unsurprisingly‚ man-made climate change has wreaked havoc on the planet's glaciers — including the Pasterze‚ which is Austria's largest.Just how much havoc are we talking about? Well...A series of stunning photos‚ published in August‚ show just how far the glacier has receded since its heyday.First measured in 1851‚ the glacier lost half of its mass between that year and 2008.A marker placed in 1985 shows where the edge of the glacier reached just 31 years ago. You can still see the ice sheet‚ but just barely‚ way off in the distance. In between is ... a big‚ muddy lake.The view from the glacial foot marker from 1995 — 10 years later — isn't much more encouraging.Even in just one year‚ 2015‚ the glacier lost an astounding amount of mass — 177 feet‚ by some estimates.Ice continues to melt daily‚ and while the dripping makes for a good photo‚ it's unfortunate news for planet Earth. Glacial melting is one of the three primary causes of sea-level rise.According to a European Environment Agency report‚ the average temperature in the Alps has increased 2 degrees Celsius in the last 100 years — double the global average.It's not unreasonable to assume that that's why this mountain hut has been abandoned by the flugelhorn-playing children who once probably lived in it.Is there anything we can do to stop climate change besides look at scary glacier photos?Climate change is‚ unfortunately‚ still a robust debate in the United States as many of our elected officials refuse to acknowledge that we humans are the ones doing the changing. As of last year‚ that list included a whopping 49 senators. Calling them to gently persuade them otherwise would be helpful. Not voting for them if they don't change their minds would be even more so.There is some tentative good news — the Paris Agreement signed in December 2015 commits 197 countries‚ including the U.S.‚ to take steps to limit future global temperature rise to 2 degrees Celsius. While it may be too late for the Pasterze glacier‚ if we really commit as a world‚ we might be able to stop ourselves from sinking whole countries and turning Miami into a swimming pool and stuff like that.And who knows‚ with a little luck‚ and a little more not poisoning the sky‚ we just might recapture a little of that Alpine magic one day.This article originally appeared on 3.11.17

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