When looking for a potential mate people often talk about the different types of "flags" that can be present. Generally, red flags mean you should stop or proceed with caution while watching for other red flags, while green flags are a sign of positive things. Jeff Guenther, LPC goes by the name of TherapyJeff on social media. The therapist recently asked the women in his audience about "automatic green flags" they look for when visiting a man's apartment for the first time. They do not disappoint. Guenther takes the top 12 answers and compiles them into a list to help out his fellow guys who may be struggling. Seemingly predicting that some men may swipe away, he informs them that these are changes they can make before the day is over. The list is quite simple and may encourage people to attempt to have at least one of them available in their home before their next date. Coming in with something that seems unassuming, Guenther says guys should install a bidet. "12, a bidet. Buy one online and hook it up to your toilet, ladies love it but it will also change your life forever. Trust me," the therapist says.The list includes other simple things like a throw blanket on your couch, a hairless bathroom counter, and sheets that are any other color outside of black or navy. Judging by the comment section, women are not only appreciative of Guenther taking the time to compile a list but they're also adding additional green flags.Would you add anything to the list? Check it out: @therapyjeff Green flags women look for when entering a guy’s place for the first time. #mentalhealth #therapy #relationshiptips #datingadvice #dating #greenflags "BAR SOOO. LOW. If one of my female friends couldn't check all of these boxes I would question their sanity. But collectively most sis[sic] hetero dudes have kept the bar so low that these are green flags," one woman complains."This list is fascinating (omg why is there never a trash can in the bathroom!!)," another woman says."It's a green flag for me when they have like, any sort of personal items on display. Like cards, framed pictures, decorations or gifts, souvenirs, etc...reminders of good times/friends/family," someone writes."A book clearly in the process of reading (either real or ebook). Library card in a visible place–GOLD flag," another person shares.Several men in the comments are excitedly expressing that they didn't know they were already giving off all these green flags based on the list. Some talk about being passionate cat dads while at least one man was anxiously awaiting Godzilla figurines to make the list. Overall it seems that nearly everyone in the comments was appreciative of the list and who knows, maybe he'll do one for green flags guys should look out for.

The presumed father of a newborn baby was skeptical of his paternity after the baby girl was born with blonde hair and blue eyes. He and his wife of two years have brown hair and brown eyes, so he thought there was no chance it was his child.The wife reassured her husband that they could have a blonde-haired, blue-eyed baby and that, quite often, a baby’s hair and eye color can change over time.But the husband “freaked out at this and refused to listen,” the wife wrote in a viral post on Reddit’s AITA page. Instead, he “demanded a paternity test and threatened to divorce me if I didn’t comply, so I did.”The man was so confident that after the baby was born, he moved into his mother’s house while he awaited the results of the DNA test. The wife stayed home with the baby and was helped through the first few weeks by her sister.To make things worse, the wife’s mother-in-law began to make threats. “My MIL called and informed me that if the paternity test revealed that the child wasn’t his, she would do anything within her power to make sure that I was ‘taken to the cleaners’ during the divorce,” the mom shared on Reddit.Finally, three weeks after the child was born, the DNA test results arrived and the husband came home to read them with his wife. “I was on the couch in the living room, so he sat next to me and we started to read the results,” she wrote. “They showed that he was the father and my husband had this shocked, kinda mortified look on his face with his eyes wide as he stared at it.”The wife said, “I told you so,” and laughed in his face. In the post, the wife also notes she has “zero history” of cheating.Although it is rare for two people with brown eyes and brown hair to have a blue-eyed, blonde-haired baby, it is entirely possible. According to Verywell Health, there is a 19% chance that a couple with brown eyes can have a blue-eyed baby. And, as the wife noted earlier, a baby’s eye color can change over its first year of life.Further, two people with brown hair can have a blonde-haired child if both parents carry the recessive gene for blonde hair. The blonde hair may darken over time as well.If the father had done a quick Google search on the topic, he would have quickly realized that there was a very strong case that he was the father and the drama could have stopped before any damage was done to the marriage.The positive part of this story is that the wife’s post on Reddit earned her a ton of support from people who thought her husband’s antics were utterly inappropriate. The support probably also helped to put her husband's wild antics into perspective while she determined their future. The wife felt bad about laughing at her husband, but most people thought it was appropriate, given her husband's behavior.“Not only doesn’t he have a basic grasp of genetics, he threw a tantrum and left you immediately after having the baby to struggle alone for almost a month,” CrystalQueen3000 commented. “He’s lucky all you did was laugh in his face.”A lot of commenters thought that the woman should leave her husband for accusing her of cheating and leaving her alone with the child.“Honestly, if my husband left me for weeks after giving birth due to a faint assumption like this, I would be done. I can't be together with someone who abandoned me when I needed them desperately,” Matakakiba wrote.This article originally appeared on 1.5.24

For most dog owners, their pooch is a member of the family, best friend, confidante, and loyal protector. They would never dream of giving their dog away to anyone, let alone selling their pet. However, what if the offer was $200,000?A TikTokker named Alexis Elliott says she received a “legit” offer of $200,000 for her Doberman pinscher puppy, but refused because she wouldn’t dream of selling her dog.“Someone offered us $200K for our puppy, and I told my husband ‘absolutely f*cking not,’” the TikToker said. “Would you guys sell your dogs for $200k?” she asks later in the video. “Like, that is my baby! That is my baby. I birthed her. That is my child. Like there is no money, I would not sell her. But it just got me thinking, like, I wonder if people would have taken that 200K?"After posing the question, Alexis received a lot of responses. Surprisingly, many of them would entertain the $200,000 offer.Warning: Video contains strong language.​"In this economy? Yes." one user wrote, and people agreed with them, giving the comment over 8,000 likes. "I would absolutely, without even thinking about it, LMAO," Maee G added. Others thought that it was morally right to take the money. "It’s a crime to not accept 200k," Lana said.One woman tried to alter the deal. "Not my dog but the husband, absolutely," a user wrote.About the same number of commenters said they would never sell their dogs, even for $200,000. "A lot of you in these comments don’t deserve a dog," Adero_77 wrote. “Omg never. The thought of my dog being confused and feeling abandoned breaks my heart," Julie added."One time, someone asked my brother if he would sell his puppy. My brother answered, ‘No, I'd rather have an empty wallet than an empty house,’” Tracy Laguna wrote.One person responded to the video with a funny clip of their dog waiting on the curb with a suitcase. “For 200k, damn!” I am Yelitzii captioned the video. @iamyelitzii #stitch with @Alexis For 200k damn ? Some believe that if their dog went to live with someone with $200k to spend on them, it would probably be living in a better place. "If they’re offering $200k they can clearly provide him a better life than I can! This is best for both of us," Clutch Grabs wrote. "Listen, with that type of money, me & my dog would live our best lives… separately," Jasmine added.Those who said would never sell their dogs because it would cause them distress are correct. “Yes, your dog will miss you when you give them away,” Preventive Vet wrote on its blog. However, dogs can adapt to a new family situation. “It is normal for a dog to grieve the loss of their previous family and go through an acclimation period in their new home,” the blog continues. “While they may miss you, if they are in a caring environment and their needs are being met, they will do well.”This article originally appeared on 12.10.23

Who among us hasn’t come into full adulthood wishing they had known certain things that could have made life so so so much easier in the long run? Choices that, if made, ultimately would have been much better for our well-being…not to mention our wallets. But then again that is all part of growing older and (hopefully) wiser. However there is something to be said about getting advice from those who’ve been there, rather than learning the hard way every single time.Thankfully, a man who goes by @johnfluenzer on TikTok has a great list of things young people should start doing once they become adults. Are any of his suggestions fun, cool or trendy? Not at all. But they are most definitely accurate. Just ask any 30+-year-olds who wished they had done at least four of these things.John started off by saying, “welcome to being an adult. Maybe you weren't told this by your parents, but this is through my trial and error." Listed below are the eight vital things to maintaining a healthy adulthood, that most of us have no idea about until well into adulthood. 1. Getting an annual doctor visit.This is the bare minimum amount of visits one should be making, according to John. He recommended more if you “have more medical concerns.” 2. Dental visits. For a yearly cleaning at the very least. "Keep in mind that a $300 cavity can turn into a $1,500 root canal, which can then turn into a $2,000 crown on top of the $1,500 you just paid, so it's better to just pay the $300 or whatever it is for a cavity, and just get it sorted,” he explained. As someone with this exact experience (ignored a cavity because she didn't want to pay $300, only to pay $1500 years later, even with insurance) I can ruefully confirm. …as can others, judging by the comments sections to John’s video. “I didn’t go to the dentist for 8 years and now I need a root canal. Learn from my mistakes people,” one person wrote. Seriously, no amount of flossing and avoiding sugar can make up for a professional cleaning and checkup, folks. Last note on this subject—John mentioned that if you couldn’t afford to go to a dentist, to check for nearby dental schools that can often perform necessary procedures at a fraction of the cost.Though he specifically mentioned dental schools in Canada, that is also an option in America. Things I wish I had known as a 20-year-old…3. Next up, John suggested that if you are sexually active, to get checked for STDs/STIs.“If you're uncomfortable with your GP, or you don't have a GP, go to a sexual health clinic…. Just go get tested — it's better to know,” he said. 4. Get vaccines. “Be up on your vaccines, not just your flu shot.""We're talking Hep A/Hep B, and also if you're under 25, get your Gardasil 9. It's three shots. It prevents the cancer-causing HPV,” he explained. And while he mostly discussed the free health care options found in Canada, HPV vaccines are covered by most insurances in the US. Plus there are other potentially free/low cost resources, such as the Vaccines for Children (VFC) program for those under 19. 5. Then get a PEP, aka Post-exposure prophylaxis, if you had a “risky sexual encounter” and are worried about having contracted HIV. For this one, time really is of the essence. The sooner a PEP is taken, the more effective it is at preventing HIV, and must be taken within 72 hours of possible exposure to HIV. Gotta say…list time 3-5 seem particularly important, as many young people are not given thorough sex education. 6. Rent. Everyone’s favorite. John explains that especially in a housing crisis, “your rent should be the first thing you take care of every month." "It comes before everything. Now maybe if you have kids and they need to eat, of course, that's important," he added. "But a roof over their head is way more important and you do not want to give landlords any excuse to have you evicted. Pay your rent and pay it on time."7. Hold onto that cellphone as long as possible. “I know we all want the new cell phones.Keep your phone as long as possible, OK?" he said. "I don't care if it's any iPhone 10, iPhone 8, keep it for as long as possible. Especially if you're under no contract—you have so much freedom.” Instead of getting a new phone, John suggested switching providers every month to get special deals and save “$40–50 bucks a month,” which, as we all know, really adds up. 8. Only have one streaming subscription a month.This one was admittedly “controversial,” John shared, but in his point of view, it’s a no brainer. “You don't need Netflix, Disney, Hulu, whatever... you don't need them all the same month. January do Netflix, cancel. February do Hulu... All of these different apps, they let you save watchlists, right, like 'My List.' And if you cancel your subscription and you restart it two months later, your list is still there. So just save stuff, only pay for it once a month, and try to save some money,” he suggested. What a wake up call, right? But other hardened adults couldn’t help but agree with John. “This is very good advice, can confirm (unfortunately) as a fellow adult lol,” one person wrote. Others appreciated how he took the time to share this list to help younger people avoid some pretty disheartening setbacks. “I love people like you so much, just her to help others in life. People like you are so important because you didn’t have to make this video but you did.” You can’t always trust what you hear on TikTok, but John’s advice is sound. What most life hacks seem to have in common, other than a healthy blend of common sense and 20/20 hindsight, is that it puts some form of security at the forefront—not necessarily instant gratification. Fun is so important, but as anyone with experience will tell you, peace of mind is priceless.Watch the full video below: @johnfluenzer #greenscreen Here is my list if things you jeed to start doing once you’re an adult! I know its not fun bit I wish someone had told me when I was younger. #genz #genalpha #adultingishard ♬ original sound - John This article originally appeared on 12.10.23

The things human beings have figured out how to do boggles the mind sometimes, especially in the realm of medicine.It wasn't terribly long ago that people with a severe injury had to liquor up, bite a stick, have a body part sewn up or sawed off and hope for the best. (Sorry for the visual, but it's true.) The discoveries of antibiotics and anesthesia alone have completely revolutionized human existence, but we've gone well beyond that with what our best surgeons can accomplish.Surgeries can range from fairly simple to incredibly complex, but few surgeries are more complicated than separating conjoined twins with combined major organs. That's why the recent surgical separation of conjoined twin boys with fused brains in Brazil is so incredible. The twins, Bernardo and Arthur Lima, are almost 4 years old and have never seen one another's face. They've spent their lives conjoined at the top of their heads, facing opposite directions. Born as craniopagus twins (joined at the cranium), their brains were also fused together, making their separation extremely complex. According to the BBC, they've been cared for at the Instituto Estadual do Cérebro Paulo Niemeyer (Paulo Niemeyer State Brain Institute) in Rio de Janeiro for the past two and a half years.Surgeon Noor ul Owase Jeelani is the founder of medical charity Gemini Untwined, which funded the surgery. He helped lead the team of nearly 100 medical workers who worked for months to prepare for the boys' separation, which was one of the most complicated of its kind. Jeelani told the BBC that it was the first time surgeons in separate countries practiced by operating in the same "virtual reality room" together, wearing VR headsets."It's just wonderful," he said. "It's really great to see the anatomy and do the surgery before you actually put the children at any risk. You can’t imagine how reassuring this is for the surgeons. To do it in virtual reality was just really man-on-Mars stuff."Watch Jeelani explain how they prepared for the procedure:Prior attempts to separate the twins had been unsuccessful, making the surgery even more challenging due to scar tissue. However, after multiple surgeries that took more than 33 hours collectively, the boys were successfully separated in June.“It was without a doubt the most complex surgery of my career,” said neurosurgeon Gabriel Mufarrej of the Paulo Niemeyer State Brain Institute, according to EuroNews. “At the beginning, nobody thought they would survive. It is already historic that both of them could be saved." Jeelani told the BBC that the boys' heart rates and blood pressure were "through the roof" for four days after the surgery—until they were reunited and touched hands. According to Reuters, Bernardo and Arthur are the oldest twins with fused brains to be successfully separated. They will spend the next six months in rehabilitation.Congratulations to the Lima family and to the global team that combined dedication, perseverance and the miracle of modern technology to create a brighter future for these young boys. This article originally appeared on 08.04.22

Adrienne Osuna is a fitness blogger with a focus on weight training. After years of struggling with her weight, this mother of four finally got serious about her health, adopting a rigorous schedule of power lifting, cardio, and intermittent fasting to lose weight, gain muscle, and kick ass.And while her personal regimen might be a little too ambitious for most of us, she's still inspiring—because she keeps it real.An image she posted on her blog is going viral for pointing out that focusing on your weight is a misleading goal. The before-and-after pic shows her before she started lifting and after—a complete physical transformation which resulted in a staggering one pound of weight loss.I know what you're thinking—that's two pounds! Well, I can explain. After Osuna's pic was copied from her blog, it blew up all over the internet—on Facebook, Twitter, Imgur, and more.After she went viral she made another Instagram post revealing she was actually a pound heavier in the after photo. Unfortunately, that post has since been made private.She would later explain that she felt it was important to reclaim her image because it had been used in advertisements for weight loss products, and that's not what she's about."But I DID NOT use anyone's products to do this," she wrote in a post which since been made private. "This was all hard work in the gym lifting heavy weights and intermittent fasting.Kudos to Ms. Osuna for getting the word out—fitness isn't about a number, it's about having awesome muscles you could use to punch a hole through a plaster wall.This article was originally published on 12.22.22 by our partners at someecards and was written by Matt Nedostup.

When I saw these incredible photos Angelo Merendino took of his wife, Jennifer, as she battled breast cancer, I felt that I shouldn't be seeing this snapshot of their intimate, private lives.The photos humanize the face of cancer and capture the difficulty, fear, and pain that they experienced during the difficult time.But as Angelo commented: "These photographs do not define us, but they are us."This article originally appeared on 11.5.13

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The most precious document in existence is the Constitution of the United States of America. This document spells out how the USA works, how the governance of the USA works, and what the rights of our citizens are and are not. It was created in the late 18th century by the Founders, including Madison, Jefferson, Hamilton, and Monroe. This, surely, is not what our Fathers intended. It’s what people with very different goals and needs want — and are getting. It was in several articles. Article One spelled out how the President was to be ELECTED by the citizens of the USA. He or she was not to be appointed, not to be inherited, but to be elected by the free and fair balloting of the citizens. Over the centuries it was changed drastically so that non-whites and women and non-rich could vote and be elected. These were immense changes. Article Two specified how the powers of the government were entrusted to an elected legislature. At first this was somewhat restricted. Non-whites, women, persons who had been slaves, persons without money, persons who had been prisoners, persons who had been in a rebellion, were not able to vote or serve in the legislature. This too was completely changed so that by now, the national legislature, the Senate and the House of Representatives, could be voted on and/or in by almost anyone. The power of the national legislature, also known as the Congress, was largely limitless. It was, however, limited by other parts of the Constitution. Article Three specified a national or federal judiciary. It took many decades, but eventually the powers of the federal judiciary came to be seen as largely without limits. The federal judiciary could resolve disputes between and among the states, interpret federal and/or state laws, and read out whatever was confusing about state and/or federal powers under the Constitution. These powers also were virtually limitless. One thing the courts could NOT do, as far as I am aware, was usurp the powers under Article One to elect a President. That could be done only by the citizens/voters via the electoral college. If the courts could decide who got to be President, then the whole plan of having the USA be a Constitutional democracy was gone. Instead, we now have a Republic based upon the machinations of lawyers and courts. That was never contemplated by any of the Founders, as far as I am aware. But this is exactly what has happened in New York vs. Trump. By a long, tendentious sleight of hand maneuver, the Democrat Party has seized control of the electoral process. So long as there are aggressive district attorneys and power-hungry jurors anywhere in our America there is no more Constitutional process for electing a President. This, surely, is not what our Fathers intended. It’s what people with very different goals and needs want — and are getting. Good night and good luck. READ MORE from Ben Stein:  Your Basic Human Is Not a Hot Item Harvey Road Only Israel Is Not Allowed to Defend Itself The post A Few Words About a Coup D’éTat in Our Perfect USA appeared first on The American Spectator | USA News and Politics.