"It may be the most important thing we do in life; learn how to love and be loved."At least, that's according to Harvard psychologist and researcher Rick Weissbourd.He's been collecting data on the sex and love habits of young people for years through surveys, interviews, and even informal conversation — with teens and the important people in their lives.Through it all, one thing has been abundantly clear:"We spend enormous amount of attention helping parents prepare their kids for work and school," Weissbourd says. "We do almost nothing to prepare them for the tender, tough, subtle, generous, focused work of developing mature healthy relationships. I'm troubled by that."He and his team have compiled five years of intense research that asks the question, "What do young people really think about sex and love?"And maybe just as important: "How should we be preparing them?"Here are three major takeaways from the groundbreaking 2017 report that remains incredibly relevant nearly a decade after it was first released:1. Hookup culture might just be a big ol' myth.Everybody's hooking up with everybody these days, right? Not so fast.The Harvard report presents a startling statistic from a related study in 2008. A group of college students in the U.S. were asked what percentage of guys on campus they thought had sex on any given weekend. They guessed about 80%. The reality? As low as 5%.Weissbourd notes that because hookups are so culturally visible (especially in college) and gossiped about, it creates a perception that they're a lot more common than they actually are.The Harvard study itself found, in fact, that most young people are a lot more interested in sex within a committed relationship or, shockingly(!), things that don't involve sex at all.What it means for parents: We as adults, unfortunately, play a big role in this pervasive and harmful myth. "In every era there've been complaints about how sexually out of control kids are," Weissbourd says. "It's a story adults really love to tell."When we play up this stereotype, the study finds it can actually make young people less likely to seek advice or to talk about sex and relationships because they may feel inadequate or embarrassed about their lack of experience.2. Sexual harassment and assault, however, remain huge, unaddressed problems."There are a significant number of young men out there who think that all they can't do is rape someone," Weissbourd says. "They can't drag someone in an alley to rape them."What many of them have very little concept of, he says, is how harmful and dangerous behaviors like catcalling, pressuring, and coercion can be.The study cites endless instances of girls being harassed at school, complaining to administration, staging walkouts; anything to get the problem addressed. But the "boys will be boys" attitude persists, and problems are often swept under the rug rather than tackled head-on.A culture of sexual violence is harmful for obvious reasons, but the report also found these kinds of attitudes can bleed over into relationships that can "disproportionately involve females servicing males."What it means for parents: Talk. to. your. kids. about. consent."I was really surprised how many parents had not had basic conversations with their kids about things like consent, or how to avoid sexually harassing a person," Weissbourd says.We have to make it crystal clear to young people what kinds of behavior are and aren't acceptable, and follow up those lines with real consequences. It's the only way things are ever going to change.3. Teens and young adults want more guidance than we're giving them.Most parents aren't thrilled about having "the talk," and admittedly, bringing up the topic of sex with a teen is no easy task.But with all this dread and hand-wringing over how to talk about the birds and the bees, the Harvard report notes that many parents are overlooking a much bigger topic: love and relationships.Roughly 70% of surveyed young adults reported wishing they had received more or better guidance on the emotional aspects of relationships, both from parents or from health class. But it's not just a hindsight thing.Many parents are overlooking a much bigger topic: love and relationships."The percentage of young people who want guidance on romantic relationships was encouraging," Weissbourd says. "Kids light up when they are talking about love and what love is and what does it mean. That was surprising and really encouraging."What it means for parents: When you're done teaching your teenager how to put a condom on a banana, make sure to spend some time talking about the day-to-day work that goes into building a healthy relationship.That means going beyond platitudes. The Harvard team suggests diving into more complex questions like, What's the difference between attraction, infatuation, and love? How can we be more attracted to people the less interested they are in us? Why can we be attracted to people who are unhealthy for us?Those are questions some of us might not even have the answer to, but having the honest conversation with our kids is a major step in helping them learn how to love and be loved.As Weissbourd says, it's one of the most important things we'll ever do.The full report tackles even more and is jam-packed with must-know findings and statistics. It's definitely worth a read.This article originally appeared on 05.18.17

Matthew Inman is the Eisner Award-winning author of The Oatmeal. He's published six books, including New York Times Best-Sellers such as "How to Tell if Your Cat is Plotting to Kill You" and "The Terrible and Wonderful Reasons Why I Run Long Distances." He enjoys running marathons, writing comics, and eating cake.You can read more of Matthew's comics here. Comic by Matthew Inman/The Oatmeal. Used with permission.More comics from The Oatmeal:When your house is burning down, you should brush your teeth.My dog: the paradoxIt's going to be okay.More comics from The Oatmeal: When your house is burning down, you should brush your teeth.My dog: the paradoxIt's going to be okay.This article originally appeared on 12.02.16

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Sometimes I just shake my head when I see the stuff that is being talked about in the news.  Just when you think that things can’t get any worse, somehow we manage to sink to a new low.  In this article, I am going to tackle a very disturbing topic.  But first I want to make it crystal clear that I am not against anyone.  I believe in loving all people no matter what they look like or where they are originally from.  Every single person that is living in our world today has great value, and it is my goal to share the truth with as many of them as I can while there is still time to do so.  But that doesn’t mean that it is wise to throw our borders wide open and allow millions of people that are not being properly screened to come rushing in.  When you choose to have wide open borders, it is inevitable that there will be absolutely massive social problems, and that is precisely what we are witnessing right now. At this moment, there is a tremendous amount of discussion on social media about what is happening in the city of Springfield, Ohio. The Haitian population of Springfield has become very large, and Newsweek is reporting that it is being alleged that “some of these people have been killing and eating folks’ pets”… Springfield, which had a population of around 60,000, has recently been at the center of the immigration debate, with its Haitian community growing to between 15,000 and 20,000 over the last four years, according to city officials. The past few days have seen locals report that some of these people have been killing and eating folks’ pets. Kirk posted about this on Sunday, when he wrote on X, formerly Twitter: “Residents of Springfield, OH are reporting that Haitians are eating their family pets, another gift of the Biden-Harris mass immigration replacement plan. Liberals will soon be lecturing Americans on why they need to be sensitive to Haitian culture and accept this as the new normal. Those idiots deserve to be condemned and mocked mercilessly. Save our pets. Secure our borders.” At a recent city commission meeting, one local resident was literally begging for officials to do something. He claimed that migrants are “grabbing up ducks by their neck” and “eating them”… ‘I really challenge you guys to get out here and do something,’ he told the meeting. ‘These Haitians are running into trash cans, running into buildings… they’re flipping cars in the middle of the streets…’ The man added: ‘They’re in the park, grabbing up ducks by their neck, and cutting their head off and walking off with them. They’re eating them.’ Another local resident told the commission that confrontations with Haitian migrants have become so frequent that she “can’t take it anymore”… Another local told the city that she “can’t take it anymore,” as Haitian migrants are littering on her yard and harassing she and her husband. Resident Glenda Bailey told the city “They have become the occupiers. What they’ve done is they’ve replaced the population in Springfield.” Tensions came to a boil last year after a illegal immigrant from Haiti caused a school bus crash last August, killing 11-year-old Aiden Clark after the child was thrown out of the emergency exit as the bus rolled off the road. Another 20 students were injured. When asked about this, one official acknowledged the stories that are being spread but he insisted that “we haven’t really seen any of that”… ‘I think it’s sad that some people are using this as an opportunity to spread hate or spread fear,’ deputy director of public safety and operations Jason Via told NPR. ‘We get these reports “the Haitians are killing ducks in a lot of our parks” or “the Haitians are eating vegetables right out of the aisle at the grocery store.” ‘And we haven’t really seen any of that. It’s really frustrating. As a community, it’s not helpful as we try to move forward.’ So who is telling the truth? As I was doing research for this story, I did discover one recent incident in Canton, Ohio where a woman was arrested after she started eating a cat… An Ohio woman was arrested after she allegedly killed a cat and began eating the feline in front of her neighbors. Allexis Telia Ferrell, 27, is charged with injuring animals, prohibitions concerning companion animals and disorderly conduct. Ferrell reportedly stomped on the cat’s head to kill the animal before eating it in a residential area in front of multiple people at a housing complex on 13th Street SE in Canton, Ohio, the Canton Police Department said, according to Gray News. And I also found an account that was posted by journalist Darren Beattie about three rabbits that were killed by Haitian migrants in New Jersey… I have a story about this from New Jersey. A Haitian “family” moved into my cousins neighborhood in Edison, NJ. A small suburban neighborhood that was mostly Italians for forever. As they died off the houses got sold to various rental only companies. My cousin is the ONLY owner on her cull de sac. There are nine houses. They’ve had rabbits outside for AGES. They have a hutch that heated, has water, a run in area that’s covered and fenced. Well one night they are sleeping and they heard a horrible noise. My cousin knew immediately it was the rabbits and she and her husband got up and went to check on the rabbits. There were three members of the Haitian “family” from next door, they had started a fire on the lawn and killed three rabbits. They were in the process off preparing them to cook. What is acceptable in one part of the world can be quite unacceptable in another part of the world. If people are going to come here, they are going to have to adapt to our laws and our culture. In New York City, authorities are very alarmed by the dramatic spike in the number of animal sacrifices that are taking place.  The following comes from the New York Post… Animal sacrifices are surging in Queens, with chickens, pigs and rats being tortured, mutilated or killed in “twisted” religious rituals in parkland surrounding Jamaica Bay, The Post has learned. In a little over a month, at least nine wounded animals or carcasses have been discovered in the federally-managed Spring Creek Park in Howard Beach and the Jamaica Bay Wildlife Refuge in Broad Channel — including five live pigs with partially severed ears. Creatures recovered from the revolting scene also include a near-dead baby rat tied up in a bag with chicken bones; a freshly-decapitated chicken head; a live hen in distress; and a dead dog with its neck snapped. According to that same report, it is believed that these animal sacrifices are being conducted by migrants from India… Jamaica Bay has been a popular religious site among members of the Hindu Guyanese and Indo-Caribbean diaspora living in nearby neighborhoods, including Richmond Hill and Ozone Park. Along the waterway, which has been nicknamed the “Ganges” by some, after the sacred body of water in India, people regularly gather to give offerings, typically flowers and fruits, and leave statues of deities as well as prayer flags. This sort of thing may be perfectly normal in India, but it just isn’t going to fly in New York City. If you or I moved to another country, we would be expected to try to assimilate. But a lot of the people that are crossing our borders illegally have no intention of doing that. In fact, a lot of them are coming here with very evil intentions.  For example, the ultra-violent Venezuelan gang known as “Tren de Aragua” is rapidly establishing a very extensive criminal network throughout the continental United States.  The following comes from a report that was just released by James O’Keefe… LEAKED: U.S. Army CUI Documents Reveal Expanding Threat of Venezuelan Criminal Organization ‘Tren de Aragua’ Across NYC and Denver @OKeefeMedia has obtained Controlled Unclassified Information (CUI) from the U.S. Army of the North Division, highlighting the growing presence of one of Venezuela’s largest criminal organizations in the U.S. The document states that Tren de Aragua “has established a presence in Brooklyn, Bronx, and Williamsburg, NY,”with “approximately 400 TdA members” living in these cities. The CUI also warns that TdA members in Denver “have been given a ‘green light’ to fire on or attack law enforcement,” with Homeland Security Investigations (HSI) in New York receiving a similar report. The document details how the criminal organization is using advanced technology and surveillance, heightening the danger to U.S. military personnel and law enforcement. It states, “Coordinated efforts between local, state, federal law enforcement, and the military are crucial” to protect against these expanding threats. With National Guardsmen recently seen in subway stations across New York City, the situation is escalating as Venezuelan gang members, linked to the TdA, have been involved in violent incidents, including an attack on a Colorado apartment complex in late August. The U.S. Army considers this to be a very serious threat to our national security. So why aren’t our leaders in Washington doing something about this? Over the past several years, millions upon millions of extremely desperate people have come pouring over our wide open borders, and that has set the stage for unprecedented chaos. It isn’t going to take much to push this country over the edge, and when that inevitably occurs there are going to be vast numbers of extremely desperate people that are ready to run wild. Our politicians in Washington have betrayed us, and the consequences of their very foolish decisions are going to be extremely bitter. Michael’s new book entitled “Chaos” is available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon.com, and you can subscribe to his Substack newsletter at michaeltsnyder.substack.com. About the Author: Michael Snyder’s new book entitled “Chaos” is available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon.com. He has also written seven other books that are available on Amazon.com including “End Times”, “7 Year Apocalypse”, “Lost Prophecies Of The Future Of America”, “The Beginning Of The End”, and “Living A Life That Really Matters”.  When you purchase any of Michael’s  books you help to support the work that he is doing.  You can also get his articles by email as soon as he publishes them by subscribing to his Substack newsletter.  Michael has published thousands of articles on The Economic Collapse Blog, End Of The American Dream and The Most Important News, and he always freely and happily allows others to republish those articles on their own websites.  These are such troubled times, and people need hope.  John 3:16 tells us about the hope that God has given us through Jesus Christ: “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”  If you have not already done so, we strongly urge you to invite Jesus Christ to be your Lord and Savior today. 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