You've probably been there. You're out and about and you see something that just feels ... off. "Should I step in? ... But it's not really any of my business. ... And I'm not even sure they need my help..." Our gut tells us to speak up‚ to ask questions‚ to tell someone. But often‚ we don't.This happened to Malyk Bonnet‚ a 17-year-old from Montreal. But instead of ignoring his instincts‚ he acted brilliantly. It may have saved a woman's life.Bonnet had been having a relatively normal day until he spotted something suspicious on his way home.He'd been waiting for the bus after a shift at the restaurant where he works when he saw a man and woman arguing. He sensed a red flag."The guy was screaming at her‚ the girl‚" Bonnet told CBC News. "He wasn't really gentle with her‚ and I started watching‚ because I thought he would hit her‚ so I approached them a little bit."The pair asked Bonnet if he could lend them bus fares to nearby Laval‚ a city about 25 miles away from downtown Montreal.Bonnet felt uneasy about what was happening. But instead of declining‚ he decided to get more involved. He helped the man and woman with their fares and told them he was also traveling to Laval (which was not the case)."My plan was to keep them in a public place where he wouldn't hurt her‚" Bonnet told Dateline NBC. "I decided to be friendly with the man and have him think I was his friend. I played my game and he seemed to trust me."After arriving in Laval‚ Bonnet suggested they grab a bite to eat. At the restaurant‚ he gave the pair $50 for food and excused himself to use the restroom. Finally having the opportunity‚ he called the police and told them "someone had been kidnapped." Officers arrived minutes later.What Bonnet hadn't known at the time was that police were already looking for the perpetrator and his victim.The abusive man Bonnet reported had abducted his ex-girlfriend just hours beforehand."We were looking for a 29-year-old woman who was kidnapped by her former boyfriend earlier that day‚" Laval police Lt. Daniel Guérin told CBC News. "We believed that man was very dangerous."Previously‚ the abuser spent time behind bars for assaulting his ex and sending her death threats.Bonnet told Dateline NBC that while he didn't speak with the woman after police arrived‚ he could see how relieved she was. "We made eye contact and she had tears in her eyes. She was really happy."Unfortunately‚ this type of tragic experience isn't all that rare.While this particular story unfolded in Canada — where roughly half of women have experienced at least one incident of sexual or physical violence since the age of 16 — you'll find similarly alarming statistics in the U.S.1 out of 4 American women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime. What's more‚ female victims of homicide are far more likely than male victims to be killed by a current or former partner.Although it may seem easy to simply leave an abusive relationship in the dust‚ take it from some women who've been there — it's much more difficult than it seems from the outside looking in.Instead of passing judgment‚ you can learn more about how you can help friends and family members who may be experiencing domestic abuse.Bonnet has become a local hero for his selflessness."His quick actions may have saved this young woman's life‚" Guérin said. The officers made sure to collect money so Bonnet could be reimbursed for the bus fares and food he purchased while trying to save the victim. "He now has 500 new friends in our department."Thank you‚ Malyk‚ for reminding me that sometimes the bravest thing I can do is simply listen to that voice when it's trying to get my attention.This article originally appeared on 08.20.15

Towards the end of The Beatles’ illustrious but brief career‚ Paul McCartney wrote “Let it Be‚” a song about finding peace by letting events take their natural course. It was a sentiment that seemed to mirror the feeling of resignation the band had with its imminent demise. The bittersweet song has had an appeal that has lasted generations and that may be because it reflects an essential psychological concept: the locus of control. “It’s about understanding where our influence ends and accepting that some things are beyond our control‚” Jennifer Chappell Marsh‚ a marriage and family therapist‚ told The Huffington Post. “We can’t control others‚ so instead‚ we should focus on our own actions and responses.”This idea of giving up control‚ or the illusion of it‚ when it does us no good‚ was perfectly distilled into 2 words that everyone can understand as the “Let Them” theory. Podcast host‚ author‚ motivational speaker and former lawyer Mel Robbins explained this theory perfectly in a vial Instagram video. View this post on Instagram A post shared by Mel Robbins (@melrobbins) “I just heard about this thing called the ‘Let Them Theory‚’ I freaking love this‚” Robbins starts the video. “If your friends are not inviting you out to brunch this weekend‚ let them. If the person that you're really attracted to is not interested in a commitment‚ let them. If your kids do not want to get up and go to that thing with you this week‚ let them.” Robbins says in the clip. “So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations.” “If they’re not showing up how you want them to show up‚ do not try to force them to change; let them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just let them – and then you get to choose what you do next‚” she continued. The phrase is a great one to keep in your mental health tool kit because it’s a reminder that‚ for the most part‚ we can’t control other people. And if we can‚ is it worth wasting the emotional energy? Especially when we can allow people to behave as they wish and then we can react to them however we choose. Stop wasting energy on trying to get other people to meet YOUR expectations. Instead‚ try using the “Let Them Theory.”  @melrobbins Stop wasting energy on trying to get other people to meet YOUR expectations. Instead‚ try using the “Let Them Theory.” 💥 Listen now on the #melrobbinspodcast!! “The “Let Them Theory”: A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About” 🔗 in bio #melrobbins #letthemtheory #letgo #lettinggo #podcast #podcastepisode How you respond to their behavior can significantly impact how they treat you in the future.It’s also incredibly freeing to relieve yourself of the responsibility of changing people or feeling responsible for their actions. As the old Polish proverb goes‚ “Not my circus‚ not my monkeys.”“Yes! It’s much like a concept propelled by the book ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k.’ Save your energy and set your boundaries accordingly. It’s realizing that we only have “control” over ourselves and it’s so freeing‚” 60DaysToLive2012 wrote.“Let It Be” brought Paul McCartney solace as he dealt with losing his band in a very public breakup. The same state of mind can help all of us‚ whether it’s dealing with parents living in the past‚ friends who change and you don’t feel like you know them anymore‚ or someone who cuts you off in traffic because they’re in a huge rush to go who knows where.The moment someone gets on your nerves and you feel a jolt of anxiety run up your back‚ take a big breath and say‚ “Let them.”

If you have a hard time staying focused on a task‚ you're not alone. In a Crucial Learning poll of 1‚600 people‚ two out of three responded that they have a hard time staying focused on one task or one person. And this difficulty focusing happens in both of the major areas of life‚ with 68% responding that they have a hard time focusing at work and 62% said they struggle to focus at home. It's not surprising that most people have attention deficit issues‚ considering what the vast majority of us are carrying around with us all day long. It's no longer just other people who occasionally interrupt what we're doing‚ but rather our daily barrage of message‚ emails‚ app notifications‚ news headlines‚ social media check-ins‚ advertisements and other distractions our phones or other handheld devices offer us. However‚ according to productivity expert Chris Bailey‚ it's not so much the distractions that are keeping us from focusing‚ but rather the overstimulation of our brains that cause us to seek out distractions in the first place. In a 2019 TEDx Talk‚ Bailey‚ author of "Hyperfocus" and "The Productivity Project‚" shared that the key to focusing better isn't to try to try harder to focus‚ but rather almost the opposite: Rediscover boredom and let your brain wander where it will‚ or what he refers to as "scatterfocus."The first step in combating the overstimulation of our brains is to consciously lower the level of stimulus. Bailey himself began trying this out with an experiment. He noticed that most of his day was spent going from screen to screen‚ from the moment he woke up in the morning to when he went to sleep at night. The biggest culprit was his phone‚ so he spent an entire month only using his phone for 30 minutes a day. "It took about a week to adjust downward into a new‚ lower level of stimulation‚" he shared‚ "but once I did‚ I noticed that three curious things began to happen. First‚ my attention span grew. It was like I could focus on things‚ not effortlessly‚ but with much more ease than I could before this experiment started. In addition to this‚ though‚ as I was going about the world and especially when my mind wandered a bit‚ I had more ideas that my mind arrived at‚ and on top of this‚ I had more plans and thoughts about the future. Getting rid of one simple device led to these three effects."The experiment was so successful that he decided to try to lower his level of stimulation even further. He asked his followers to share the most boring things they could think of for him to do‚ and he would choose one a day to do for an hour. After a month of doing things like reading the iTunes terms and conditions and watching a clock tick for an hour‚ he noticed the same kinds of effects as he did with his phone experiment. He was able to focus even more effortlessly‚ not because he had fewer distractions‚ but because he was less stimulated and therefore didn't seek the distractions in the first place.Bailey makes a strong case for creating more empty space and less stimulation in our lives so that our brains are better able to focus. Watch him explain:

Bryan James has become popular on social media for documenting his time working on Royal Caribbean International’s Odyssey of the Seas. He boarded the ship on December 8‚ 2023‚ and will continue his voyage through April 9‚ 2024. The Odyssey of the Seas is one of the largest cruise ships in operation. It is 1‚138 feet long and has a gross tonnage of 167‚704 with 16 decks. In a recent video‚ he revealed the biggest threat to passengers on a cruise ship. While most people‚ citing the Titanic disaster of 1912‚ would say it’s icebergs‚ according to James‚ it’s fires. He recently shared a video that shows just how seriously the Odyssey of the Seas takes the fire threat. The ship has massive doors installed in the ship that can prevent fire from moving through the ship. “All cruise ships have these things called fire doors and they do exactly what you think. They just help prevent the spreading of fire on a cruise ship. But if you are the biggest ship in the world‚ you need the biggest fire doors in the world. I've never seen these until this morning‚” James explained in a YouTube short.Look at these things; they are massive!" he continued‚ "They probably do a really good job at stopping fires."While fires are rare on cruise ships‚ in 2013‚ a blaze aboard one grabbed the public’s attention. A power generator on Carnival Cruise’s Triumph caught fire‚ which knocked out most of the ship’s power and left passengers with no lights‚ air conditioning‚ or working toilets. The ship drifted for 4 days at sea before it could be towed to Mobile‚ Alabama.Fire is the BIGGEST threat to a cruise ship‚ not icebergs or sinking like with the Titanic

Dad and parenting educator Jon Fogel‚ who goes by @wholeparent on social media‚ thinks he’s stumbled onto “one of the greatest parenting hack ever‚” thanks to Mister Rogers. In a clip posted to TikTok‚ Fogel explained how he had recently stumbled upon a study about the effect that “Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood” had on kids.” “Kids who watched [the show] for whatever reason‚ seemed to be more patient‚ more calm‚ just more‚ like‚ emotionally attuned‚” he said. The study‚ published on ChildResearch.net‚ went to to predict that Mister Rogers’ signature soothing teaching style and well known “tools for learning” like curiosity‚ listening‚ and caring about one another “will grow even more important as the digital age evolves.”That certainly seemed to be the case for Fogel‚ who explained that‚ like many parents‚ his kids are normally “bouncing off the walls” when they wake up between 5-6am. However‚ when he tried the Mister Rogers approach‚ everything changed. “I am just going to act. I'm gonna pretend to be Mr. Rogers. I'm gonna speak like Mr. Rogers‚ like super slow-paced ... I'm just going to be Mr. Rogers…and see what happens to my kids‚” he said. The results were nothing short of magical.Instead of “tearing up the house‚” the kiddos sat in a circle‚ “patiently playing Lego” and “attentively attuned” to Fogel’s every word as he calmly and slowly asked questions. Just think if he had worn a cardigan while doing all this. @wholeparent Am i the only one doing this? Is this just a cheat code? #parenting #parenting101 ♬ Won't You Be My Neighbor? - Mister Rogers Fogel’s hack quickly got a lot of views online‚ and many folks who watched the clip agreed this should be a new go-to parenting move. “The impact of being calm and respectful toward tiny humans is amazing. They’re spongy mirrors. They absorb our energy and reflect it back at us‚” one person wrote. Another added‚ “Calm and slow‚ open and non-judgmental‚ you invite them to share their thoughts with you‚ they’re happy that you’re listening and paying attention to them.” One viewer pointed out how Rogers has a special set of rules for talking to children‚ lovingly dubbed “Freddish” by his team of writers‚ which meticulously reconstructed language so that young children could understand what was being said to them in a positive way. Just one of the many reasons why the show was such a phenomenon in the children’s programming sector.Others chimed in with praises of Rogers’ timeless appeal—for kids and adults alike. “Mr Rogers is very ASMR…I’m 41 and still sing the theme song to my kids‚” one parent shared. Mister Rogers might be known for his educational work with children‚ but he’s taught many lessons to us "big kids" too‚ primarily when it comes to effective‚ compassionate communication. His legacy is a gift that keeps on giving.

One Atlanta resident has taken it upon himself to clean the streets of nails‚ screws and other metal bits that have been left to accumulate in large amounts. Known as […] Source: The ‘Atlanta Magnet Man’ is saving our car tires‚ one bike ride at a time – WABE Neat idea!

From 'Schitt's Creek' to 'A Mighty Wind‚' see which Catherine O'Hara roles made our list.

In an exclusive interview with Mashed‚ chef Aarón Sánchez tells us what to expect on the new season of "MasterChef Junior‚" including an exciting new judge.

Couple traveling globe filming content for social media issue warning to travelers. A couple making social media content motorcycling around the globe was reportedly attacked and robbed during their travel in India‚ with the female of the group suffering a brutal gang rape by seven men. The couple‚ “Vincente and Fernanda‚” whose account boasts 282K followers‚ uploaded a video to Instagram following the assault‚ warning fellow travelers to be wary of rapists in India. “Something has happened to us that we would not wish on anyone‚ seven men have raped me‚ they have beaten us and robbed us‚ although not many things because what they wanted was to rape me‚” the couple’s Instagram story post stated‚ with video showing Fernanda’s face badly bruised. a travelvlog couple trying to visit every country in the world decided to go to India as their latest destination. 11 hours ago they announced they were at the hospital because he had been beaten up and she had been gang raped by 7 men. pic.twitter.com/WNSd21TUi5— pagliacci the hated 🌝 (@Slatzism) March 2‚ 2024 “They raped me‚ they took turns while some watched and they stayed like that for about two hours‚” Fernanda told Spanish TV channel Antena 3.Winter Sun Plus is NOW 40% off! Boost your natural defenses with this powerful vitamin D3 and K formula! The rapists allegedly held a knife to Vincente’s throat while Fernanda was assaulted. More details are available now.They were resting at a tourist market in Dumka on their way to Nepal when the attack happened. Vincente had a knife held to his throat while Fernanda was assaulted.Three of the seven suspects have been apprehended. https://t.co/e0BdhqVeFF— pagliacci the hated 🌝 (@Slatzism) March 2‚ 2024 According to CNN‚ “The couple‚ who had been traveling by motorcycle from the state of West Bengal to neighboring Nepal‚ were found late Friday by police officers on patrol‚ said Pitambar Singh Kherwar‚ superintendent of Dumka district police in Jharkhand state.” “The couple said they had camped out near the site where they were attacked because they could not find hotels nearby‚” Reuters reports. The couple later reportedly clarified that not all Indians were to blame for the savage assault. I’m so sorry but trying to do a “kumbaya it’s a beautiful country please don’t judge” while your wife is laying there with bruises on her face because she was gang raped by seven men is PATHOLOGICALLY INSANE https://t.co/rdAILLmVKt pic.twitter.com/NtVtOCMJau— pagliacci the hated 🌝 (@Slatzism) March 4‚ 2024 Police in Dumka by Monday had reportedly arrested three of the men who took part in the assault. The couple also posted an image of one of the alleged culprits still at large to social media‚ saying he was one of the most aggressive men. The incident has sparked outrage and criticism of rape and violence in India‚ which gained international attention in 2012 after a girl was sexually assaulted on a bus by five men who penetrated her with a steel rod “which perforated her intestines‚” according to Newsweek. The couple’s brutal assault will hopefully serve as a cautionary tale for other travelers to be maintain situational awareness when traveling abroad in foreign countries. do NOT make me tap the sign ever again pic.twitter.com/EC09E2tYrv— pagliacci the hated 🌝 (@Slatzism) March 2‚ 2024 what the actual fuck is wrong with Indians… pic.twitter.com/zp9TyEuC5c— GBH 🦁☝️ Remilio (@xbtGBH) March 4‚ 2024

Curfew imposed‚ police ask national military for help... Haiti’s problems just went from bad to worse‚ as the UN and embattled Haitian government of Ariel Henry (who is currently abroad as armed rebels seek his ouster) prepare a Kenyan peacekeeping force to intervene amid constant armed gang warfare which have taken over the streets of Port-au-Prince. Despite for months not having had control of the capital city‚ authorities have ordered a nighttime curfew following gunmen overrunning the country’s two biggest prisons. BREAKING: Gangs in Haiti have teamed up and after freeing over 4000 prisoners‚ they have vowed to arrest senior police commanders and their Prime Minister Ariel Henry as soon as he lands in Haiti. pic.twitter.com/udPkDx6Wv6— The General (@GeneralMCNews) March 4‚ 2024 “The police were ordered to use all legal means at their disposal to enforce the curfew and apprehend all offenders‚” Finance Minister Patrick Boivert said of a new 72-hour curfew. Local reports say that at least 12 people were killed and some 3‚700 inmates escaped in the jailbreak. The prisons were stormed over the weekend‚ include a major facility in the capital and another in nearby Croix des Bouquet.’URGENT! Keep Alex Jones in the fight against the NWO! Please pray &; contribute at DefendJones.com today! About 80% of Port-au-Prince is already said to be under the control of the gangs‚ and the prison assaults started with armed groups staging a distraction by attacking police stations. The attack on the police stations then immediately followed with a coordinated assault on the prisons. Given thousands of criminals just flooded the streets‚ the already bleak and lawless situation which has in many cases forced civilian residents out of their homes in the hardest hit neighborhoods‚ things are about to spiral further. Reporters have in the aftermath witnessed bodies with bullet holes strewn about the prisons. According to the BBC‚ “Haiti’s police union had asked the military to help reinforce the capital’s main prison‚ but the compound was stormed late on Saturday.” “On Sunday the doors of the prison were still open and there were no signs of officers‚ Reuters news agency reported‚” the report continued. “Three inmates who tried to flee lay dead in the courtyard‚ the report said.” A Haitian government statement said Sunday that those behind the attack were “heavily armed criminals wanting at all costs to free people in custody‚ particularly for kidnapping‚ murder and other serious offenses.”  BREAKING: Gangs in Haiti have teamed up and after freeing over 4000 prisoners‚ they have vowed to arrest senior police commanders and their Prime Minister Ariel Henry as soon as he lands in Haiti. pic.twitter.com/udPkDx6Wv6— The General (@GeneralMCNews) March 4‚ 2024 The US Embassy in Port-au-Prince is urging all American citizens still in the country to “leave as soon as possible” while other embassies are restricting services. Haiti’s national police force has an estimated 9‚000 officers‚ which has been unable to reign in the gang violence‚ given it also is responsible for the security and safety of the island’s 11 million people.