Some kids can wow us with their abilities, from being precocious philosophers to musical prodigies. Whether a child's extraordinary talents are due to "nature" or "nurture" is always a big question mark, but there's no question that some kids stand out among their peers for the things they can do.Sometimes they even stand out from grownups. Take young Aldie, for example, whose ability to articulate his feelings exceeds many adults. When you find out he's barely 4 years old, hearing him calmly talk about his emotions and good choices is all the more remarkable.Aldie's mom, Jonisa Padernos, tells Upworthy that she's felt he was "really special" since he started talking in full sentences at 20 months. "Believe it or not, he had no major tantrums in his toddler years because he was always able to express [himself] with his words," she says. Screenshots of a mom and her 4-year-old talking@mom_aldie/TikTok@mom_aldie/TikTokPadernos started young, asking Aldie questions and giving him time to answer without interrupting. "I’d always ask his opinion or feelings towards something and I don’t rush him to answer," she says. "I give him time and just listen. I make sure I also tell him how I feel and explain to him because I think kids copy us, and if we do that, they would think that it’s normal to feel all those emotions as long as you can express it with words and [are] able to process it."Check out the conversation between Aldie and Padernos at bedtime as he goes through a recap of his emotions that day, which has racked up more than 17 million views on TikTok. @mom_aldie Bedtime conversation. The last part made me ❤️? #fyp #momlife ♬ Chopin Nocturne No. 2 Piano Mono - moshimo sound design The way Aldie shared what he was feeling about his mom not letting him go outside, how he helped his papa make a better choice with his emotions, and how he described the different emotions he feels is more than most adults can muster when they've had "a hard time doing emotions" during the day. And the way Padernos listens and reflects and reassures him is so, so beautiful.People in the comments agreed."Emotionally intelligent, articulate and able to string super sophisticated sentences together," wrote one commenter on Instagram. "I taught 7-year-olds that weren’t this advanced - heck, most adults aren’t this emotionally intelligent. I have confidence in his future and the consequences are working beautifully Mama. We have to raise kids other people will like too. ??""Wowwwww….. I’m so amazed by this baby’s EVERYTHING … the emotional intelligence, the vocabulary, empathy, the processing skills…all of it! ❤️❤️❤️❤️" wrote another.Gif from 'The Office' via Giphy "The most mature conversation I’ve heard about emotions - tbh I don’t think I’ve ever been as honest about my feelings as this little one was ?? feeling so inspired by both of them. ♥️??✨" shared another.There's a lot that parents can do to help their children develop this kind of emotional intelligence, and this interaction between Aldie and his mom is a prime example."My advice is just be present, encourage kids to tell you how their day was or anything, listen and give them time to express without rushing," says Padernos. "Be patient, consistent and honest when communicating with them. Always remember that kids mirror us and so we have to show and express our emotions so they will be encouraged to also express their feelings to us. And when we get mad or frustrated, also let them know and explain why and apologize if you feel that you’ve let your emotions get in the way."While not every child will be able to understand and articulate as clearly as Aldie did at such a young age, most kids are far more capable of understanding and processing emotion than we give them credit for. Proactively teaching them how to communicate what they're feeling and explaining how emotions work can go a long way toward helping them develop the self-regulation tools they'll use throughout their life.This article originally appeared two years ago.

The music of Queen has a profound visceral effect on everyone. Few pieces of art can cause complete strangers to put aside their differences and come together in song, but by golly, “Bohemian Rhapsody” is one of them. It would be cheesy if it weren’t so absolutely beautiful.This pertains even to non-English-speaking countries, it appears. Recently, thousands of Harry Styles concertgoers in Warsaw, Poland, began cheering as those iconic beginning piano notes penetrated the air.It wasn’t long before the entire stadium was singing along to that beloved tune and acing every single lyric. As one person commented on YouTube, even though most people in Warsaw don’t speak English, “they sing Queen.”The passionate impromptu performance serves as a reminder of how special both Queen and the late Freddie Mercury remain today.“No other band will ever come close to Queen. They were lightning in a bottle and Freddie was a whale in a teardrop. Once people keep singing his words, FM will live on forever,” another YouTube viewer wrote.Indeed, seeing an entire stadium come alive with “Bohemian Rhapsody,” you can’t help but feel Mercury’s soul return to the mortal plane, as if we’ve all been transported back to that historic Live Aid concert in 1985 when he had the entirety of Wembley Stadium wrapped around his finger for 21 glorious minutes.Watch below, and try not to sing along. Scratch that—sing your heart out. - YouTube www.youtube.com Just when you think nothing could top that—earlier this year, pro-level muscians came out of nowhere onto the streets of Paris to pull off an epic flash mob perfomance of the beloved hit: See on Instagram That's the true timeless beauty of this song. no matter who is singing it it's always a semi-spiritual experience that brings people together in a magical way. This article originally appeared on 7.14.23

Being in a relationship can be difficult at times. Learning someone else's quirks, boundaries, and deep views on the world can be eye-opening and hard. But usually, the happy chemicals released in our brains when we love someone can cause us to overlook things in order to keep the peace.Jayson Gaddis, a relationship expert, took to Twitter to rip off people's rose-colored glasses and tell them to forego marriage. Honestly, with the divorce rate in this country being as high as it is, he probably could've stopped his tweet right there. Don't get married, the end. Many people would've probably related and not questioned the bold statement, but thankfully he followed up with three things you must be willing to do before going to the chapel. The honeymoon will be short if you haven't laid teh groundwork. Photo credit: CanvaWhy “don’t get married” is not what it sounds likeBefore going into his reasons for why he tells people not to get married, Gaddis explained that he is a person that "LOVEs being married." I mean, it would probably make him a pretty weird relationship expert if he hated relationships, so it's probably a good thing he enjoys being married. Surely his spouse appreciates his stance as well.So why does he tell unsuspecting people not to get married? "Because a long-term partnership might be one of the hardest paths out there. It will confront everything about you and your partner. Your relationship skills will be tested. And all your unresolved childhood trauma will come to the surface," Gaddis wrote.How childhood trauma shows up in loveUnresolved childhood trauma can become a major problem in relationships because oftentimes our trauma is present in how we react to conflict or relationship strain. According to Kaytee Gillis, LCSW-BACS, childhood trauma manifests in relationships in multiple ways including fear of abandonment, being easily irritated, constantly arguing or avoiding conflict at all costs.Never, ever get married. Unless you are willing to do these 3 things.— Jayson Gaddis (@JayGaddis) January 31, 2023 It's not unwise to tuck that bit of information in your pocket if you're thinking about a long-term relationship, and Gaddis bringing this to the forefront will certainly benefit someone. That's not to say you can't be in a relationship if you have trauma; Gaddis is simply suggesting that you be aware of your traumas and how they may show up in the course of a relationship.Three commitments to make before the wedding Before you ask for their hand, ask if you've done the work.Photo credit: CanvaHe then went on to get into his actual list of things couples should be willing to do before they get married in order to have a successful marriage."Learn. Learn about you, learn about them. Never stop learning about yourself and each other in the context of your relationship," he wrote, which falls right in line with his pre-numbered suggestions.Now, the second suggestion may have people quickly raising an eyebrow, especially if they don't like conflict. Gaddis suggested embracing "conflict, adversity and challenges" and getting "very very good at repairing it and working it through 100% of the time."Something about long-term partnership invites us to face everything unloved and unprocessed in our psychology, neurobiology, and mammalian wiring. It is, at its core, a spiritual path.— Jayson Gaddis (@JayGaddis) January 31, 2023 That's a good one. Conflict resolution is a skill and committing to sharpening it and using it every single time could save some relationships. The third may help preemptively alleviate some unforeseen power struggles and I'm here for it."Share leadership and collaborate. Being teammates about everything and sharing the load together is crucial. Be honest about how hard it is to share leadership and get better at it," Gaddis tweeted before elaborating further in the thread.The bottom line: do the work or stay singleThe author and relationship expert bluntly stated that if both people can't agree to do those three suggestions, then the couple would not survive. Gaddis rounded out the Twitter thread by explaining that unless you're ready to work on yourself and commit to the three things listed, you should stay single.Ouch. Harsh words, but it's better to come from a behavior and relationship expert than anyone else.This article originally appeared last year.

Your reaction to being insulted can feel like a pressured situation, especially if it was said in a public setting such as a work meeting or at a bar with friends. You don’t want to just ignore it because you’re not a pushover, but, at the same time, tossing an immediate insult back might escalate conflict or make you look like a bigger bully if your comeback has more teeth. Luckily, there’s an “unbeatable” comeback that can diffuse the situation without anyone mistaking you for the bad guy.Lawyer Vince on TikTok shared that the best initial response to an insult is one five-word question: “Can you say that again?” That simple question works whether you are acting as if you didn’t hear them or if you are confidently, calmly requesting them to repeat their words. Having the person who insulted you repeat themselves gives them the opportunity to either review what they’ve said, see the fault in it, and then edit themselves or it takes the bite out of the insult because they’re now in an awkward position while you’re in control. In either case, you will be in a stronger position for an additional response, but many conflicts can just end there. @howtoconvince The ultimate comeback: no matter the insult, this response leaves them speechless every time. ?#clapback #micdrop #creatorsearchinsights Experts in communication agree with this tacticLawyer Vince isn’t the only attorney that praises this conversational judo move:"Feigning that you didn't hear or understand someone is an underused but effective way to get them to either self-edit their speech or change it all together. We see it all of the time during witness testimony and cross-examination,” said lawyer Justin Obsorn to Upworthy. “When you pull out the rug on a snarky and rude comment, you take away the impulsiveness of the insult. It forces the speaker to be intentional and, frankly, go against human nature to repeat it verbatim.”This is not just true in the courtroom, but therapists see it as an effective technique during verbal conflicts as well. Other people online have also shared this tip with others, as it has helped people who were insulted in the office, at school, when dealing with a rude customer, and in many other day-to-day situations. View this post on Instagram A post shared by psychology.matters.daily (@psychology.matters.daily)Make no mistakeAnother reason why “Can you say that again?” is a great response to an insult is that it also can clarify if you’ve actually been insulted at all.“I do think that we often may hear things in a way that the speaker did not intend—either we hear words they didn't say, or we hear the actual words but misinterpret the desired meaning or effect,” Dr. Larry Schooler, Professor of Conflict Resolution and Communication at the University of Texas at Austin told Upworthy. “Asking someone to repeat their comment could, at the very least, help both sides understand what each other is thinking and feeling—it gives the recipient of the message the chance to say, ‘I am glad you repeated it because I misunderstood or misheard you at first,’ or ‘That's what I thought you said, but I'm disappointed or upset and was surprised you said it.’” @carolinakowanz Her are different alternatives to: “can you repeat?” Can you say that again? What was that? Sorry, I missed that. Could you repeat that? Can you repeat that, please? Can you say that one more time? Could you say it again? Sorry, I didn’t catch that. I missed that, what did you say? Could you repeat what you said? Can you go over that again? #ingles #english #inglesonline #englishlesson So, asking someone to repeat themselves isn’t just a great comeback if you were insulted, it also helps prevent you from accidentally insulting someone in response to something they didn’t actually say. It acts as a conversational failsafe in that way.The next time a person insults you, or conversely if you want to check yourself to be sure you were insulted, the best way to move forward is to ask for the conversation to be rewound. Much like instant replay, both sides of the conversation can see where the problems lie and proceed from there.

Picture this: there are no grocery stores or microwaves. Heck, there’s not even electricity in your home. Instead, it’s lit by waxy candles and flickering oil lamps, casting a sepia-toned glow on a cozy space.And yet, one still must feed their family. Cooking and baking have come a very long way since the 1800s. Despite technology making it easier—and usually safer—we have lost a bit of that care that went into preparing dishes 200 years ago. Because people took so much effort to create hearty and tasty meals, recipes from the time period were often extremely personal. (This was reflected in their names too, with fun ones like “Hearty Hoppin’ John Stew” and “Mrs. Rundell’s Raspberry Jam.”)Over on YouTube, there’s an entire channel called Early American, dedicated to reenacting what life was like in Missouri in the 1820s. It has over 1.3 million subscribers from all over the world who love watching couple Ron and Justine roast meats, cook breakfast, and sit by crackling fireplaces. Cooking 200 years ago. www.youtube.com, Early American Here are some tried and true recipes from two centuries ago, for those who want a delicious meal with truly traditional roots. Whether it’s molasses cookies, hearty stews, or raspberry jam, the ingredients are simple and timeless. MY GRANDMA’S SHOOFLY PIE This recipe is a personal hand-me-down from their grandmother. “This shoofly pie is a classic Pennsylvania Dutch recipe that has been passed down for generations. Grandma’s loving attention not included!”Submitted by D. StultzIngredients 1 cup molasses 3/4 cup hot water 3/4 teaspoon baking soda 1 egg, beaten 1 (9-inch) deep dish pie crust 1 ½ cups all-purpose flour 1 cup packed brown sugar 1/4 cup shortening DirectionsGather the ingredients. Preheat the oven to 400°F (200°C).Combine molasses, hot water, and baking soda together in a medium bowl; whisk in the beaten egg until well combined. Pour the mixture into the deep-dish pie shell.Combine flour and brown sugar in a separate medium bowl; cut in shortening until the mixture resembles coarse crumbs.Sprinkle on top of pie filling.Place pie on a baking sheet and bake in the preheated oven for 15 minutes. Reduce oven temperature to 350°F (175°C) and bake until filling is set, about 30 minutes more. BEEF WELLINGTONAllRecipes shares, “Beef Wellington is a luxurious main dish made with beef tenderloin coated with paté and mushrooms, wrapped in puff pastry, and baked until the pastry is a beautiful golden brown. The classic English dish is named after Arthur Wellesley, 1st Duke of Wellington.”Submitted by MarlaIngredients 2 ½ pounds beef tenderloin 4 tablespoons butter, softened, divided 2 tablespoons butter 1 onion, chopped ½ cup sliced fresh mushrooms 2 ounces liver paté Salt and pepper to taste 1 (17.5-ounce) package frozen puff pastry, thawed 1 large egg yolk, beaten 1 (10.5-ounce) can beef broth 2 tablespoons red wine DirectionsPreheat the oven to 425°F (220°C).Place beef tenderloin in a baking dish. Spread 2 tablespoons softened butter over beef. Bake in the preheated oven until browned, 10 to 15 minutes. Remove beef from the pan and reserve pan juices; allow beef to cool completely.Increase oven temperature to 450°F (230°C).Melt 2 tablespoons butter in a skillet over medium heat. Sauté onion and mushrooms in butter for 5 minutes. Remove from heat and let cool.Mix paté and remaining 2 tablespoons softened butter together in a bowl; season with salt and pepper. Spread paté mixture over beef. Top with onion and mushroom mixture.Roll out puff pastry dough to about 1/4-inch thickness and place beef in the center.Fold up and seal all the edges, making sure the seams are not too thick. Place beef in a 9x13-inch baking dish, cut a few slits in the top of the dough, and brush with egg yolk.Bake in the preheated oven for 10 minutes. Reduce heat to 425°F (220°C) and continue baking until pastry is a rich, golden brown, 10 to 15 minutes. An instant-read thermometer inserted into the center should read between 122°F and 130°F (50°C to 54°C) for medium rare. Set aside to rest.Meanwhile, place reserved pan juices in a small saucepan over high heat. Stir in beef broth and red wine; boil until slightly reduced, about 5 minutes. Strain and serve with beef. Serve hot and enjoy! Roasting meat and making jams in the 1800s. www.youtube.com, Early American MISS PARLOA’S SOFT MOLASSES GINGERBREADSubmitted by Florence Nelson: On the site The 1800s Housewife, Florence Nelson shares ideas from Miss Parloa’s cooking and baking books and claims the results were delightful, adding, “This is an excellent frugal recipe for soft molasses gingerbread, which requires only six ingredients. It puts a delicious gingerbread well within reach of anyone, even if sugar, eggs, and butter are not available or are too expensive for common baking.”Ingredients 1 cup molasses 1 teaspoon baking soda 1 teaspoon ginger 1 tablespoon butter or lard ½ cup boiling water 2 cups flour DirectionsHeat oven to 375°F.To a mixing bowl, add molasses, baking soda, ginger, and butter or lard.Stir this together, then pour in one half cup of boiling water and the flour. Beat well.Spread in a well-greased 8×8 pan.Bake until set in the center, about 18 minutes. MRS. RUNDELL’S RASPBERRY JAM Submitted by Anna for The 1800s Housewife, who notes, “The jam recipe I settled on comes from Mrs. Rundell’s beloved tome, A New System of Domestic Cookery. First published in 1806, it’s widely considered to have been the most popular English cookery book throughout the first half of that century.”Ingredients 3 lb raspberries 3 lb sugar DirectionsWeigh equal quantities of fruit and sugar.Put the former into a preserving pan, break it, stir constantly, and let it boil very quickly.When most of the juice is wasted, add the sugar, and simmer half an hour.This way, the jam is greatly superior in color and flavor to that which is made by putting the sugar in first. See on Instagram HEARTY HOPPIN’ JOHN STEW Submitted by Melissa CongerNoted in AllRecipes, “A Hoppin’ John recipe appeared in The Carolina Housewife by Sarah Rutledge in 1847, and this is thought to be the first written reference to the hearty dish. Eat it on New Year’s Day for good luck all year long.”Ingredients ½ pound bulk pork sausage 1 stalk celery, sliced 1 small onion, chopped 3 cloves garlic, minced ½ red bell pepper, diced ¾ cup brown and wild rice mix 1 (15-ounce) can black-eyed peas, drained and rinsed 1 (14.5-ounce) can diced tomatoes with juice 2 ⅓ cups chicken stock 1 tablespoon Cajun seasoning, or more to taste Salt to taste Freshly cracked black pepper to taste DirectionsCook and stir sausage in a large skillet over medium heat until meat is still slightly pink, about 8 minutes. Mix celery and onion into sausage; cook and stir until onion is translucent, about 5 more minutes. Stir garlic and red bell pepper into sausage mixture and cook until bell pepper is slightly soft, about 5 minutes.Stir brown and wild rice mix, black-eyed peas, tomatoes with their juice, chicken stock, and Cajun seasoning into sausage and vegetables. Bring to a boil, reduce heat to low, and cover; simmer 45 minutes. Remove cover, raise heat to medium-low, and simmer until stew is thickened, about 15 minutes. Season with salt and cracked black pepper. POTATOES À LA PARISIENNE Submitted by user bitetheface via Reddit thread r/Old_Recipes, this person grabbed a cookbook from the 1800s and tried making full-course meals. They share, “I have a copy of Miss Parloa’s New Cook-Book and Marketing Guide from 1880, and last night I hosted a dinner party to serve a menu for 12 from the book.”Ingredients Potatoes Olive Oil Salt DirectionsPare large uncooked potatoes. Cut little balls out of these with the vegetable scoop. Six balls can be cut from one large potato. Drop them in ice water. When all are prepared, drain them, and put them in the frying basket. This can be half full each time—that is, about three dozen balls can be put in. Put the basket carefully into the fat, the same as for thin fried potatoes. Cook ten minutes. Drain. Dredge with salt, and serve very hot. These are nice to serve with a fillet of beef, beefsteak, chops, or game. They may be arranged on the dish with the meats, or served in a separate dish. See on Instagram SHERRY COBBLER Submitted on AllRecipes by Lorem Ipsum, who shares, “Probably invented in the 1830s when the ‘frozen water trade’ was just hitting its stride. A very refreshing summer drink when the berries are in season.”Ingredients 1 tablespoon white sugar 1 tablespoon water 3 orange slices ½ cup dry sherry (such as fino or amontillado) 1 ½ cups crushed ice ¼ cup fresh raspberries and/or blackberries, for garnish DirectionsPut sugar and water into a cocktail shaker and stir to dissolve. Add orange slices to the shaker and pour in sherry. Fill with ice, shake well, and strain into a tall glass full of crushed ice. Garnish with seasonal berries and a fresh slice of orange.

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